Post # 1
So I have an interview tomorrow, finally! I feel really good about it and not nervous at all but I just have one issue, my wedding is in a month and I would need to either take two weeks off or just start after the honeymoon which wouldn’t be until August 16. How do I bring this up with out making it seem like a big deal? Do you think it would be a deal breaker?
Post # 3
I would just be honest with what is going on. If you keep it a “secret” you might not get off on the right foot with you employer. Will it affect if you get the job or not? Maybe, but being upfront and honest is still best.
Just make sure to put a positive spin on it!
Post # 4
Congrats and good luck! I would just mention you are getting married during the “tell me about yourself” part of the interview and state the dates, etc without asking for it off. They’ll get the hint.
Post # 5
@babyboo: I was totally going to be upfront about it, I want it to be clear from the get go lol I just don’t know how to bring it up so that it doesn’t sound so “bad”.
Post # 6
Good luck! I agree with Laylabelle though, I am sure they’ll get the hint. People get married everyday so they’ll know what to do.
Post # 7
Good luck! I would not bring it up UNLESS they ask “when can you start?” or something similar. Then I would say something like “I am very excited about this position and if I was offered it, I would just need to plan around my upcoming wedding. I can either [insert the plan here = take two weeks off or begin August 16th].”
If they don’t ask, I would just wait until they call to offer the job to you (because of course they WIL!) and then bring it up them. Where I work it takes forever to interview and hire someone, so maybe that’s true there too.
What type of job is it? And good luck again!!!
Post # 8
I wouldnt bring it up until they start asking either about yourself or the next steps/timeline of when the position is to be filled and the start date.
They should understand… people get married all the time!
Post # 9
I agree with ktbrady. Answer honestly when asked. Assuming you have an engagement ring on, an observant person will realize this. Other people might have jobs they have to give more notice to, so two weeks isn’t that big of a deal. This isn’t like you’re 8 months pregnant and going to take off two months.
Post # 10
Thanks, guys thats what I was thinking of doing! I was just afraid it might be a deal breaker for them and I REALLY want the job. It’s a clerical position so not too exciting but the pay is pretty good the benefits are even better AND FI works about a block away which means carpooling and lunch together 🙂
Post # 11
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this is exactly why we had to cancel our honeymoon. Hubs took a new job about a month before our wedding and didn’t get PTO for 6 months. When he told them he was getting married they told him he couldn’t have time off for a Honeymoon so close to getting hired. His boss considered it generous to let him have off the Friday before our Saturday wedding. Fortunately the rehearsal was already scheduled for late, so even if he had not been able to get off it would have been OK. It’s a very competitive job market right now and unless they point blank ask you when you’re getting married I wouldn’t volunteer the info until you are at the point of discussing start dates, etc.
Post # 12
I definitely wouldn’t mention this until they offered you the position. Even though they aren’t supposed to discriminate for such things, it may play a part in whether or not they hire you if it came down to you and someone who didn’t have a scheduling issue to work around.
Good luck! 🙂
Post # 13
Just be professional and straightforward. You will do great! Good luck!