- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
You haven’t met with the priest yet, and you’ve set your date for ONE month from now?
wow. good luck, that’s all I can say.
Usually, Catholic parishes require you to wait 6-12 months until they marry you, so that you have enough time to prepare yourself for Catholic marriage. Have you done pre cana yet? We had our first two-on-one meeting with the deacon a few weeks before the wedding. But by then, we had completed pre cana and had had our date set in their book for almost a year.
I don’t know what a questiner is. The deacon just asked us to verify our addresses, looked at our baptism certificates. After we had to swear on the bible that we were telling the truth, he asked us if we plan to have children and how long we had known each other. Then he made sure we had paid for everything, and that was it.
I am also getting married in a Catholic Church in Texas. We met with our priest in february to set a date. The next step was to take a pre-marital course which was taken in august. Our third step was to set a date so that we can have our meeting with the priest which he was going to ask us a series of questions. We also had to take two witnesses. Both FH and I decided to take our mothers. I was nervous about the questions that he was going to ask us. BTW, we went in one at a time to answer the priest questions.
Here are some of the questions that he asked us:
Have you been married before? Do you frequent the church? Are you getting married by force ? (i thought that question was funny..i kind of wanted to say yes, im doing this at gun point ..but i figured it would be rude). Am i taking any contraceptives? (its not allowed withing the catholic community). Am i being offered anything in order to get married? This are some of the questions that he asked us.
Well, if i can remeber ill repost…You have nothing to worry about. 😉
At my church you had to start marriage prep a year in advance. So far we’ve met with our priest twice and we’re scheduling pre-cana for early next year. After the pre-cana we’ll meet with our priest again (then I don’t know what happens!).
The questions asked were: how long have you known eachother? do you intend to have children? are you biologically able to have children? if not, does your partner know this? are you planning to sign a pre-nup? have you ever been married before? etc etc etc
He didn’t ask anythign about contraception/pre marital sex, thankfully (so maybe I’m a bad catholic). And he knows we live with eachother, as he asked us separately for our addresses and we gave him the same one. He didn’t say anything about it, though.
I do know someone who got married in the main cathedral of a city and they were NOT okay with them living together- they were insturcted to live separately until the wedding. (they didn’t…)
BTW my priest is a thousand sorts of awesome- we’re so glad he’s marrying us!!
I was SUPER nervous too! FI and I were (are) living together and I was sure that he would kick us out as soon as we filledo out our address form! HA! He was supper chill. I guess it depends on your priest though… But ours didn’t even raise an eyebrow. We just had to tell him that we were not being forced into the marriage and bla bla bla he checked some boxes and had us sign these little sheets and that was that.
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