(Closed) Intimacy and not living together?

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

How old are you?  Regardless, you should respect your parents’ wishes while you’re living with them.  Until you live on your own, you have to follow their rules.  Still, if you’re an adult — like over 25 — your parents should understand that you are going to be with your boyfriend from time to time.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Oh god, we had sex inappropriately all the time. One time it was so bad that we both started..and finished…by the end of the intro song to law and order. We went from having sex all the time (when my FI had his own apartment) to once a week, maybe (when we both were living with our parents). It was hard! (Literally, all the time. haaha). Umm, we also had a lot of car sex. 

Sorry, this wasn’t helpful!!! My advice is to do it at his place 🙂 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.

Before me and FH lived together, I would stay over 2-3 nights in a row at his apartment. This was living with my parents. I’ve been allowed to sleep over a guy’s house since I turned 18 3 years ago.

Post # 6
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833 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.

Honestly, if I were you I’d just lie.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Dialysate:  this made me laugh! Law & order will never be the same! Lol

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Kacey23:  I’m in the same situation. I’m 25 and living with my parents. They are really religious, and I am too, but I’m much more open-minded when it comes to that. The only reason I haven’t moved in with my FI by now is because I don’t want to ruin my relationship with them, plus I would be cut off from their healthcare (my FI is in the Navy and they don’t allow civilians on a policy unless married), which I really need due to health problems.

 

FI and I just do it at his apartment every chance we get, or sneak a quicky in at my parents’ house when we know they will be gone for awhile.

 

It’s definitely doable, but difficult to sneak around. If you love each other enough, it’s definitely worth it 🙂 We having been doing it for over a year now and getting married next month so we won’t have to worry about it 😉

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We also still live at home, but our parents give us privacy (I’m going to be 25 this year).  We act like adults and respect their rules, so they treat us with the same respect.  Neither of us are religious, but he lives with his mom and her fiance, and they’re definitely more easy going then my family (Catholic).  I figure when we move out, we’ll have anytime, anyday to do what we want. I think you just got to continue to respect their wishes, as hard as it may be.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Your options as I see it:

1. Stop staying over at his place. Be intimate earlier in the evening. 

2. Move out of your parents place.  Live with him or (the more palatable option for them) live by yourself or with roommates).

3. Have an honest conversation with your parents that your current strategy is a compromise in deference to them.  Point out your other option is 2.

4. Status quo

 

Me, I moved out with college.  My parents weren’t happy when I moved in with someone a few years later (“we still love you but we don’t approve of your choices) but it was my decision 

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