Post # 1
hey all you TTC bees!
We aren’t TTC yet, but I was wondering if the intimacy of sex changed once you started TTC? My Darling Husband made a comment once along the lines of “just think about how good the sex will be when we’re trying to make a baby” and so I was wondering if the sex got better or worse when you started TTC. Mainly, I have just read about how clinical and calculated it can get when you are really in to getting KU. Thoughts?
Post # 3
I think it depends on how long you try for. For those couples that have to try for a long time before having a baby it can get a bit routine
Post # 4
@bells: I totally agree. It was a lot of fun for the first few months, and then it started to get a little more routine. I’m not going to lie though…we were doing it a whole lot more often, and I certainly didn’t mind!
Post # 5
Added a poll, because who doesn’t like a poll?!
Post # 6
I agree with 2peas, sometimes it’s nice to have the ‘chore’ of BDing, for me it was almost like the more we did, the more I wanted :))) There are times though were it can get routine. That’s when I try to switch it up. And I try to banish all thoughts of TTC/BFP while BDing. And sometimes that is hard 🙂
I know the first month, every time we did it, we both thought, and sometimes said, this could be it! UGH. Don’t do that to yourself!! 🙂 I say just try to enjoy it!
Post # 7
@bells: I agree right now for us it’s good and exciting but if it takes awhile to concieve I am pretty sure it won’t be so exciting anymore. Right now we just do what feels good I guess so it is usually cowgirl which we both prefer so if it takes more then a few months we will get more calculated about it and it probably won’t be as fun or intimate
Post # 8
It was excellent, a lot of fun. Like others have said though, if it took a long time it might have been less fun.
Post # 9
I had heard from some it wasn’t fun and we didn’t want to be robotic about it – so while I kept an eye on my cycle, we weren’t all that obsessed with it…had it taken longer though, i imagine that it might have become less fun
Post # 10
How about ‘no change’ in your poll options?
Darling Husband and I have done it very regularly and often (at least once a day, on average twice a day and quite a few days when we do it 3 times a day. None on my period of course.) So when TTC time comes, I doubt our pattern will change much. If anything, we might have to scale down a bit to preserve the ‘good’ sperm (?) And I don’t know if that’s better for us or worse. If we end up doing it only once a day, I don’t think it will ‘kill’ us.
Post # 11
It was definitely fun at first, because we had sex so often. But then, the pressure increased as we tried to focus on our fertile window and it became a bit of a chore!
Post # 12
i agree with most of the ladies it was fun and spontanous at first.. sometimes it feels like a chore 🙁 have to make it exciting every now and then
Post # 13
At first we thought it would be fun and exciting. But, once we started on the fertility meds, it’s became chore like. As with anything you “have” to do, it starts to lose the excitement. One time, we were watching the evening news and in the same breath I said “ugh, the weatherman looks like a mole! Ok, it’s time to go do it now.” Needless to say, we missed that day.
Post # 14
It was really fun for the first 5 or 6 months, but the longer we kept trying the less fun it became. The last few months definitely had a “okay, let’s get this over with” vibe.
Post # 15
It got better, but I think that mostly had to do with excitement of concieving and the fact that I was finally off of birth control, which had killed my sex drive. But once I got pregnant, it was like and instant “off” switch.