Post # 1
My Fiance’ and I want a very intimate wedding. Not more than 15. We are bouncing around different ideas. Bed and Breakfast outdoor ceremony, Park or Botanical Gardens, Beach, On Post Chapel and then dinner after. I want a ceremony that will create beautiful memories. I prefer small. But I am at a lose as to how to achieve a very memorable experience in such an intimate way. I would appreciate any suggestions. My clock is ticking so to speak.
We would like to include the children in our Ceremony. Their ages are 16, 14 and 10. We are thinking that we would present them with a pendant or ring during the ceremony as well, in essence blending our two families into one.
Thanks so much for your input!
Post # 3
@missb27: You could do a family unity sand ceremony. Each person gets their own color sand.
You offered a lot of very different ideas. The B and B vs the beach vs a park. Close your eyes. Where do you see yourself getting married?
Post # 4
Not sure if you want a traditional ceremony or not, but I once read about a beautiful ceremony idea that we are thinking of using. Basically you group people in your family/friends together. So one group might be your parents, one group might be a married couple that you’re been friends with, one group might be your children, and you ask each of those groups to write a brief piece of advice or something they want you to vow to. You or your officiant could help facilitate this. You should read over them though, to make sure they are things you want to vow too. Then- this advice is where your vows come from. For example, if Aunt Mary advises that you maintain a sense of humor about life, yourselves, and your relationship, and your children advise that you prioritize family, they would read that advice and then your vows would be: “I promise to maintain a sense of humor, even when it becomes difficult to do so,” and “I promise to consider our family and our partnership a priority in all of my choices in life.”
Also, I don’t really watch wedding shows much, but i saw one where a woman was marrying a man with a daughter (she looked to be maybe 7 years old), and they gave her a necklace and included her in their vows. I think they each made a vow to her, as well as to each other.