Post # 1
I never considered registering because we are having a very intimate ceremony with just parents and siblings. I never thought we’d be receiving gifts even from our “guests”. We’re in our 30s and its a second marriage for both of us
However 2-3 friends that I’ve told about our quick marriage plans have asked where/if we’re registered. ( Ive only told ppl who asked our pland, everyone else will get an announcement later). I always thought it was tacky to register for an elopement (its so small that’s what I consider it). I’m right, right?
Post # 3
@luvmesumhim: I think so. I wouldn’t feel comfortable registering if I were in your position.
Post # 4
@andielovesj: yeah. I don’t feel comfortable. Im not sure what we’d register for anyway. Combining two households actually means we have duplicates!
Post # 5
@luvmesumhim: we’re getting married abroad with a guest list of about 30. We won’t be having a register. at the end of the day, it’s up to you, but I’m sure there will some etiquette rule someone will tell us! (I’m not a huge fan of all these rules)
Post # 6
I wouldn’t register in your position. It seems a little excessive to register for only 8 gift givers. If I was one of your guest, I would probably gift you cash unless there’s something I find that I know you both would LOVE.
Post # 7
You are correct. A registry would not be appropriate for such a small wedding.
Post # 8
I’d also say I wouldn’t register in your scenario. If people want to get you a gift, they’ll pick out something themselves or more likely give you money. And with such an intimate event, I don’t think you have to worry that not registering sends the wrong message. 🙂
Post # 9
I didn’t register (3rd times a charm for both of us) and we only got a gift (money) from my mom, the rest of the families didn’t even give us a card.
Post # 10
@lilbluebird: yeah that’s the thing we don’t need anything. we could think of something we want, who couldn’t, but not need. I’d like some nice luggage but we could certainly get that ourselves!
Post # 11
@dlbaqua: aww I love cards. Can I register for those? Lol
Post # 12
@luvmesumhim: We eloped and I registered only after pressure from my MIL. She said her sister (and other family) was going to want to get us a gift, so I better make a registry or else it may not be something I like or can exchange out. I hemmed and hawed for a long time and finally did a little one. The said aunt just got us a gift card! However, there were other people that found it and got us gifts. They searched for it on their own without word of mouth.
However, we did have a DW planned with STDs sent out and we cancelled it all due to father’s terminal illness. We did get lots of people asking where we registered after the cancellation.