Post # 1
Just kind of wanted to introduce myself. I guess we cant really call our ceremony an elopment because we are planning it for sometime in the spring (looking at May 1st, 2014). There will be no one there except for us, the officiant, and a photographer. It is going to be locally (not destination) at these beautiful gardens that the officiant and her husband maintain called harmony gardens. My SO and I have been together almost 13 years and he said I could invite my family but I would feel horrible because hell would freeze over before his parents would come. His mother hates me and does things just to be spiteful to her son (he got uninvited to Thanksgiving this year becaue he told her he wouldnt stay for the whole four days, they live in NY and we are in PA). So I would rather just make the day about us, our relationship, and our love then dealing with drama. Our budget is $2,200 so I hope we can plan a great intimate ceremony with that. This is where we will be getting married(located in the poconos)/the officiant that does the wedding ceremony own it http://www.loisheckman.com
She is charging us $300 for her fee and the use of the gardens. She has beautiful areas and I am leaning towards using the pergola and hanging different colored/sized pom balls down from it. I would also like to decorate an “aisle” but I am not sure what we are doing yet. Fresh petals maybe or I’ve seen petal decorated aisles in really neat designs. We will really just be making the day about us which is what it should be.
Post # 3
@starsinthesky: That looks beautiful. It will be great with minimal decor. Have you found your wedding dress yet? What are you planning on having for bouquet/bout, music? cake? Will you go out to eat after?
Post # 4
Welcome to the hive! Your plans sound amazing! 🙂
Post # 5
thank you to you both. So far we are going to decorate the pergola with different size/colored tissue poms hanging down. we will be doing a sand ceremony in a shadowbox with custom vinyl on it. I plan to create my bouquet out of silk/chiffon flowers and different broaches/flat backs. It is much cheaper than buying one on etsy. I havent looked at dresses yet but I am going to get two (one for dinner, one for ceremony/pics) and he already has a nice suit. The photographer we will be using does our family pics and just did our christmas photos and she always does an amazing job.
We might go stay in a hotel for a few nights if I can board our dogs but we are defintely going out to dinner at one of our favorite dress up resturaunts. We will see. I am just happy that after a pretty serious back injury for me and being together for so long we will be looking towards getting married/starting a family in a year.
Post # 6
Hey, we’re eloping on the same day!
I haven’t planned out anything yet but I’m actually excited about this, whereas the thought of planning a wedding made me want to puke with anxiety.
We’ve been tgether going on 10 years and I can’t wait to pick out an outfit, a restaurant, etc.
Post # 7
@lampshade: that’s great. 🙂 I just hope he agrees to that date as it is our dating anniversary and will be towards the end of my semester at school. Are you getting a short or long dress or both?? I am doing a regular wedding dress for our ceremony/photos and a shorter dress for dinner.
We have to put down a deposit on the venue/officiant after christmas. it is only $300 for the venue and the officiant to do the ceremony/customize it for us/sign the license so i am happy about that. i originally was looking at this other venue and her price would’ve been $450 then for her plus the venue would have been $350 so her gardens are much cheaper and they are beautiful. (we live in the poconos in PA so the other place I was looking at was a tourist area/waterfalls).
honestly I always wanted the big wedding but I am finding that this is going to be so much more fun, personal, and just about us. I had to come to terms with his mom not liking me anymore (long story, she started hating me when we bought our house 6 years ago..C-R-A-Z-Y) and although I know my family wants to be there, I do not want him to be thinking about how his family is not there and mine is that day so that is why we are choosing this route.
Another detail I would like to incorporate is a butterfly release. Going to use this company because they have really cute release boxes that I can then keep and use it as a keepsake box. http://www.abutterflyrelease.com/
It is also a way of incorporating the sisterhood I am president of at the community college because our club emblem is the butterfly. In my brooch bouqet I also plan to include a butterfly brooch and pictures hidden in it (lockets probably) of my adopted parents(aunt & uncle) and also of my real parents(both passed).
I love to D.I.Y. so I will be trying to incorporate a lot of that. Also I bake a lot (cupcakes) so although we are going to get a small tiered wedding cake custom made. I am going to make Rob his favorite cupcakes (they are a recipe based off of italian tri-color cookies aka rainbow cookies) the day before. It will be something nice for him 🙂 very time consuming to make so I only make them for special ocassions. I am also doing my own wedding tank/hoodie, probably d.i.y. some flats, make the wedding announcements, etc. For our club’s pinning ceremony this two weeks ago I d.i.y.ed sooo much and it came out so well and I know that the wedding ceremony will too.
I hope we get to go to our favorite resturaunt/martini bar for dinner.
Post # 8
@starsinthesky: Hi and welcome! I think elopeemtns can still be planned events!
Does her officiant/garden use fee include all the marriage paperwork? It would be good to see if she is doing that or if you need to go get your own license and bring it to the ceremony.
Post # 9
My FH and I are doing something similar! We’re going to Jamaica, and we’re having a fifth person there – a videographer.
Good luck with planning! It sounds like you’ve really thought this through already!
Post # 10
Thanks everyone! It is official. He asked me in the kitchen today lol. So romantic that guy is..haha that’s one of the things I love about him though is he is himself & doesn’t apologize, he is very logical.
@mepayne one of the sisters in Zeta Kappa Psi Sisterhood @ my college went to the Bahamas last May & had a small wedding with some family/friends & did a destination type wedding but it was really nice. I do not have my passport & I will be in the middle of finals (week after our wedding) so we can’t do that. Plus it just isn’t in the budget (they ended up spending like 5,000 for wedding/honeymoon/etc.)
I am a planner by nature so this will be the perfect thing for me to plan the next few months. I am excited because it will be a little different and unique but I’m more excited to finally be his wife (13 years!) I’ve been waiting and he is finally ready to “settle down” & start the next phaze..
Post # 11
:bangs her head on a table;
so yesterday my mom starts texting me trying to guilt me into how im their last daughter and she and my dad want to come to the wedding. i was on the phone with her for over an hour explaining her why we wanted to elope that my FI was FINE with them coming and I was the one that wanted to elope and I was fine with them coming IF it was just them and my baby brother and THEY DID NOT TELL MY WHOLE FAMILY BEFOREHAND because I do not want drama and world world 3 started over this. I do not want people there or drama and I defintely do not want to pay for people to come (as it is I will be paying for their attire, moms hair & makeup, misc. things & dinner that night which is fine because my dad can walk me down the aisle which I really wanted but didnt want to admit but I do not want everyone and their mother at my wedding, it is always drama and peoples feelings get hurt when my whole family gets together. my sister made a comment just yesterday to my mom about how I am the favorite because she is sending me some pins she found at garage sales. I asked her too & she didn’t do that for my sister’s flowers. Um but my mom made my sisters flowers for her 1st wedding (not her 2nd).
I can’t wait for May 1st to get here and over with. If my mom tells anyone and anyone shows up other than my parents and my youngest brother I am going to FLIP. I made it very clear. We are going to invite my FI parents also (who wont come as they hate me)…
Post # 12
May is the season of Eloping I SEE 🙂 My FI & I are planning to elope in May as well MAY 30, 2014. We have already met with a photographer who offered to do an engagement shoot for free!!! whoo hoooo.. and we just heard back from the venue on their fee and everything..
we are so excited but get so overwhelmed when people ask for a wedding date. FI is in medical school & I start law school in August so we dont have the time –scheduling– or $ for a big wedding.. we both have large familes and friends who are expecting a big shabang.. so were keeping it quite and are planning to announce it later!
our Budget is $3000 .. we plan to do a mini moon as well..
happy planning! I cant wait to keep posted on your journey!