Post # 1
Whenever my girlfriend and I (I’m actually in process of proposing) talk about weddings something that comes up is that we don’t want a massive budget. We dont have a massive budget to give to a wedding, and even if we did there are certain things I’d be uncomfortable with spending so much money on. I think we’d both feel uncomfortale anything over £1000 on a wedding dress – this isn’t a snipe at anyone who is, as I’ve seen the dresses on here for well over that price and you all look lovely in them, but it’s just not “us”. We wouldn’t want a massive sit down dinner either, and would probably favour maybe just a dinner with our very close family and friends or a big hogroast and then a bit of a party afterwards with more of our friends. And when we think about venue, ok yes there is one venue I love the look of and it probably would be the most expensive thing we pay out for, but sometimes I think is it worth it all if it’s actually more about us and less about an expensive wedding? It is after all, just one day and we have the rest of our lives together. I mean, what about having it at a very pretty registry office? They are out there.
Anyway brides to be and brides of weddingbee, did you have a intimiate and personal and affordable wedding? Tell me your stories of your budget weddings and how you made them your own. I’d love to heard about how much various people spent and what their wedding looked like on that budget. Dont’ get me wrong, I want nice wedding. I would like to have a nice dress, and it’s important to me that we have a bit of a party at the end to celebrate with all the people who weren’t perhaps at the ceremony and something I always picture at my wedding is lots of white lanterns in the ceiling and hanging from beams above the dance floor, but there’s a lot of things that my partner and I just don’t really see the point in and feel they are unneccessary. Like wedding favours for examples. The only wedding favour I’ve ever seen which I thought “that is actually very sweet” was a little love heart shaped bird feeder to go in your garden. I thought it was lovely as the couple were very naturey and in to all things eco friendly. I thought it was a fantastic little favour. Might even have one at my wedding as my partner and I are also like tha. We love to feed the birds in the park 🙂
So tell me your stories – small, intmate weddings on a budget. Woud love to see some photos too 😀
Post # 3
@anahappilyeverafter: I’m not married yet, but I am planning a small wedding on a budget. To be specific we are having 80 guests on a $10k budget. I knew that a dress was something very important to me, so I bought my dream dress preowned and only spent $1k! We found a great venue for our reception that comes out to a little over 3k. That price includes all the rentals and a buffet of really delicous food. If you look around you can find really affordable deals! I promise!
Post # 4
We got married at a beautiful Victorian bed and breakfast. We only invited his parents and my dad. Afterward, we all went to dinner. Even with the professional photographer, custom cake, and my dress, I think we spent less than $4,000.
Post # 5
We’re having a very intimate wedding and are spending about $2500 on it. It might actually be a little under that. We also didn’t want to spend a huge amount on the wedding and are very comfortable with this arrangement.
We’re inviting 20 of our closest family members. Getting married at our church and then having a nice catered meal with them. We really aren’t pinching pennies at all. Our photographer is a friend of my sisters so we’re getting a great deal. My parents offered to pay for the catering and my dress was only about $150. My FI’s suit was actually more expensive than my dress!
I’m also DIYing a lot of the decor for the reception, but that’s more because I love to craft and I have a very particular look I want for the venue, not because of budget reasons.
Post # 6
we had an intimate wedding with 38 guests. we spent about $8500 not including our travel expenses, honeymoon or rings. we got a great deal on the venue, our cake was free (thanks to my favourite aunt), our transportation was free (thanks to my mom’s vintage 1937 car), we did our own music and i did a lot of diy projects.
the food and bar were important to us so that’s where most of the budget went.
Post # 7
We spent around $8,000 including rings and honeymoon. We eloped to Paris. I planned everything myself. My hair and makeup were DIY. My bouquet was silk DIY. Venue was free. It was very intimate.
Post # 8
Our wedding was 55 guests. We aimed to spend $10,000; ended up spending about $11,000 (excluding honeymoon and my DH’s suit, which he needed anyway for an upcoming job interview). Over 50% of that was on catering (food/cake/service/rental of tables, chairs, linens, flatware, china, glassware), which was a priority for us. We had it at my mother’s house – ceremony and drinks in the backyard, food stations and mingling inside once the rain started coming down. It was PERFECT – such a loving, close, supportive atmosphere.
$11,000 still seems like an enormous amount to spend on a single day, and I don’t really consider that a “budget” wedding. But we did cut out a ton of unimportant things, and spend money only where we really wanted to.
Back of my dress, designed and sewn for me by a friend (I paid her, but FAR less than you would normally pay to have a dress like this custom made)
During the ceremony, which DH’s best friend officiated. Another friend of mine sewed our chuppah.
Reception scene, in my mom’s living room:
My shimmery invitations, which were designed and printed for me at cost as a gift by a printmaker friend of mine:
Post # 9
Thanks everyone, those are really cool.
I love the idea of DIYing a lot of stuff, like some of you it’s not just because of the budget, but also because I’m quite particular.
Post # 10
We’re having about 50 guests at a destination wedding at a GA coastal town. Our loose budget was about $4k, we’re ending up at about $5k. We are having the ceremony in a public park overlooking the ocean (only $200 for ceremony space). I am doing my own flowers, the only member of our wedding party is our flower girl, I am doing a lot of the details myself at home. Our reception was the biggest part of our budget, but we managed to do pretty much everything we wanted to do. We are having a cash bar to save money, but giving all our guests one drink ticket.
The main advice I would give is to shop around. I have found amazing deals, but only after searching for a while. The main thing is persistence. Also, be upfront with vendors about your budget, we got some pretty deep discounts from our reception venue, but mainly because I was such a stickler on things. Haggle, but don’t waste your time trying to talk a $10k venue down to $3k, isn’t going to happen. Over all, if you’re smart about it, you don’t have to break the bank. I will not be taking any money out of savings for my wedding, and that was my ultimate goal.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
We’re having a small, 50-person or less wedding in my mom’s backyard. We’re 3/4 months out and I think we’ve spent maybe $2500 so far, including the dress, rings, etc. A lot of stuff is being handled by friends & family which has lowered our costs a TON — my dad is doing the food for free and paid for all of our booze, my mom is doing the flowers, that kind of thing.
If you keep your guest list small you’ll have less decor to make/find/buy, less invitations, less food, less booze…
Post # 12
My wedding is definitely a budget wedding but far from small. We paid for everythingourselves and for 203 ppl we’ve spent $20k. I am getting married in SF so my price is insanely under the average spent for the location we picked. We haggled and got a 12k venue for 3K,gave amazing food for about $5 a head, we got one of our caterers to do food at cost and I DIY all my decor including my table linens! The DJ is a friend and the servers are friends of friends. DIY was worth the stress!
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Post # 14
I’m having a very affordable and personal wedding (we will see about intimate, with 170ish guest invited…). I splerged on my dress ($800!) My mom thought that was a lot, but after being on the boards it is nothing! I’m DIYing a ton both to keep costs down, and so that I can get my own personal touches on everything. It is a lot of work, but for a smaller wedding it would be less. Instead of a traditional reception hall we are having ours in a county park pavillion (which was re-done a few years ago to hold dinners and events). It is far prettier than any of the more traditional spots in my town. We are spending around 7000 (including parent contributions) on everything excluding rings and honeymoon.
Post # 15
I am having a smaller budget wedding but not sure if 150ish guests would be considered intimate. My budget is $3000-$5000 for EVERYTHING including honeymoon. Having a few diy aspects as well to save on cost. My father offered to pay for my dress, which is just $200 and I got another $200 from my grandmother for wedding related things (used for favor boxes and the rings). My venue is less than $500 and includes chairs and tables for 4 hours. Haggled with my florist for a great deal and my photographer is only $220 for full coverage.
Post # 16
We had a small wedding with immediate family and closest friends at DH’s parents’ house–about 40 people for around $3000. We had a lot of food and flowers donated, but we just picked the things that were most important to us. I splurged on my dress ($550 for dress, alterations, and all accessories) and we spent a lot on tux rentals since my brothers were already paying for plane tickets. Otherwise, our biggest expenses were our officiant, photographer, and alcohol (about $400 each). It was beautiful and very special, and I loved it. Here’s the ceremony:
And the reception: