- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
Hello fellow & future brides, I need opinions.
I met my fiancé’ a little over a year ago on the internet. Over a social network website. We knew each other a little over a week before I took a Greyhound 4 hours away to live with him. Since then, we’ve been inseparable. I don’t think we’ve spent one night away from each other in the year and few months we’ve been together. Recently, we got engaged. And if wasn’t your typical ” one knee ” ordeal. We kind of mutually decided & picked out my ring. Not very romantic I must admit, but it fits us. Everything we do, we do as a pair. Be it finances, small decisions, big decisions, ect.
About two months ago we sat down and decided on July 21, 2011 as the day we would say ” I do “. I picked a venue, a caterer, an officiant, the wedding party, the honeymoon, flowers, centerpieces, extras, the dress, ect. Pretty much 90% of the wedding was planned, I just needed to pay for it. After pricing the wedding, it came to a little under $7,000.
I’m barely 20 years old & my future Mr. is 23. I work part time in a bakery for a tad bit over minimum wage. I take GED classes full time in order to complete the program by spring so that I can start community college. He works full time and makes decent money. In order to fund the wedding I had planned, I would have to save everything I make for the next 9 months. I can’t do that. So, we then decided to push it back to 2012. Since the original wedding was set on a Thursday, and the new date is a Saturday cost are going up on almost everything. What I have figured now, we would have to save $400 a month for 17 months to get a very basic wedding.
Yesterday I found out that the venue we plan on using has a program for an intimate wedding ceremony. You still get to get married in the gardens but you can only have 20 people attend, standing room only. You get an hour for the ceremony, no dressing rooms, The rental is $100. For the two rooms we planned on renting on a Saturday is $1,150. They don’t include tables, chairs, tents, linens, ect. It’s the space only.
We would love to do the small ceremony. Everyone I have told about this thinks that it is a horrible idea. I get things like ” Your going to regret it ” or ” Why are you just settling ? ” Well, the thing is, I don’t think I am. When I started planning this wedding I really was excited for all these things I could have. But, when it comes down to it as long as I get married with our close friends and family there why does it matter ? What I would like to do is plan the intimate ceremony and afterwards go to dinner at our favorite restaurant. I’ll still hire a photographer and get the wedding photos I want. I could spend around $1,000 instead of $7,000 and get married in 2011 like we had originally planned. What do you think bee’s ?
( P.S. sorry about the length ! I started typing and didn’t realize how bad it was. ;x )