Post # 1
My fiance are having a very small, intimate gathering on our wedding day and I was wondering how some of you other brides have done it / are planning to do it.
So far, this is our idea of what our day will be like…
Wake up. Have brunch with FH and our closest friends. Get ready with my mom, my sister and my best friend. I want their to be games – scrabble, lawn bowling…we won’t be having a dance floor. Pretty much… I want everyone to have a day outside, in the country, without any worries. I want it to be a day that makes people think about who is in their life, who they love, and be so grateful that they have the love they do.
Now, some stuff I’m having trouble with…
-It feels too intimate to have a stranger marry us… but from what I’ve found it’s not legally binding unless you go to city hall or have an officiant… any ideas?
-Decorating and set up… who will be responsible?
-Catering… can you get them to deliver the food before hand? We want a buffet, so people can serve them selves.
Pretty much we want to keep it as intimate as possible and not have strangers in our day. Does anyone have any experience or ideas on how to achieve this?
Post # 3
My best friend just got married at the beginning of March, and she had a super intimate wedding. There were literally 25 people there: parents, grandparents, siblings/significant others, and each had a friend apiece.
Essentially, she and her mom set up the church/reception themselves the day before and a little the morning of…they just had candles, and some glass bowls with water and a rose floating in them. The catering was set to be delivered and taken care of by one server, met by a coordinator (who my friend went to church with) while pictures were being done. They were married by her pastor. But if you aren’t a church-goer, maybe you could have a friend/family member get ordained? From what I understand, it can be done online 🙂
IMO, I don’t think it is completely possible to keep ALL strangers from being there. Otherwise, it’ll keep one or more of the close family/friends in attendance from completely enjoying the celebration because they will have to take care of things. The guy who set up the catering and kept everyone’s drinks fresh and the two women who did the photos didn’t inhibit the intimacy of the occasion at all. Really, having these people there just made the day flow so much easier and allowed her parents and us as guests be able to relax and enjoy the day. Also, you don’t want to have to be running around worrying about things getting done on your wedding day. My bestie was the most relaxed and calm bride that I have ever seen day-of, and her wedding was the sweetest, most intimate I have had the pleasure of being in attendance for!