Post # 1
My fiancé and I had a big revelation today; we’d rather put money towards a house than spend over $10K on a wedding. So, we’re considering eloping… or as we call it “the nice version” of eloping because we’d invite our immediate family and closest friends. Including everyone (bride and groom too) the total number of attendees is anywhere from 10 to 15. How would we go about doing a “reception” for such a small number of people?
We’re thinking taking our guests to a very fancy restaurant in lieu of a reception. Is this tacky? If so, please tell me because I DO NOT want to look like a cheapskate on my wedding day. Also, how would we word “sorry no reception, just a fancy, intimate dinner at a restaurant.” By the way, this is a link to photos of the restaurant, it’s LITERALLY overlooking Niagara Falls. Please let me know what you think! All in all, ceremony, photos, limo and “reception” this would cost us just over $3,000 for the wedding. Excluding the bouquets, boutonnieres and my dress, of course.
Post # 3
I think that sounds really lovely! You could say something like “Join us afterward for an intimate dinner at xxxx” maybe.
Post # 4
no – it is not tacky, there is nothing tacky about celebrating your marriage with chosen friends or family
i would word the invite as they are invited to witness Ms CitySwoon and Mr CitySwoon exchange vows and following they are invited to XYZ restuarant to celebrate your marriage
Post # 5
I think this is a great idea and not tacky at all. Fiance and I were considering this option as well initially.
Post # 6
This is exactly what we plan on doing! But our wedding dinner would be the night before our wedding day. Having it on a Saturday would be the most convenient and frees up Sunday (our wedding day), all to ourselves. We’re planning on a private ceremony at sunset. No rush, no show, no stress, just us, the photographer, and officiant.
At first we were looking into a more traditional arrangement but our guest list has always been under 10 people and I’ve found it impossible to find a place that caters to so few guests. Booking a large place just for the sake of privacy defeated the purpose of saving money, and for the amount they were asking, it would have been the same as if we went ahead and just had something larger. A nice restaurant is the perfect solution! (Now all I have to do is find that nice restaurant! Hehe)
Tacky? Not at all! It sounds like you’re willing to spend quite a bit on your guests … if you consider price per head and the quality of food they’ll be enjoying, it’s nowhere near tacky. It definitely is different, and hopefully this kind of wedding celebration catches on.
Post # 7
As much as I love the idea of a big party, I also love the idea of a small party. When our guest list was smaller I would have loved to have our “reception” at a restaurant. Go for it!
Post # 8
This is what I plan to do too. Our guest list will most likely be around 15…just immediate family.
Are you planning on reserving a private room, or just going to the restaurant w/ like a reservation or something. Just wondering..
Post # 9
I’m so glad that no one thinks it’s a tacky idea. Our initial guest list was anywhere from 50 to 125 (we haven’t really gotten down to business yet) and we were really just having it for everyone else.
If we have do a “nice version” elopement, we can afford to get married this year instead of in 2011 and can afford to purchase a home in 2011.
@luli29: I inquired about a private room last night. Unfortunately, no one has gotten back to me yet. If we didn’t have the private room, I’m not exactly sure how we would go about cutting the cake. I’d also feel like a moron walking around a restaurant with a big ole’ poufy dress.
Post # 10
Sounds beautiful. There was a recent article in a bridal magazine about this sort of thing, and it was gorgeous! The bride still wore a dress, but it was a sleek JCrew dress.
Post # 11
I think it sounds like a lovely way to celebrate your marriage. The intimacy of the whole night will be so memorable for the both of you! It’s a wonderful idea, and what a great restaurant!
Post # 12
@cityswoon – you could really do either way, but if you’d like privacy, you should look into a private room (even though it will end up costing more). The restaurant I want to have it in regularly does small weddings. It’s so gorgeous! I have’t book anything yet, but I really hope to have it there. If I do, I think it would be appropriate to go with dress and all!
Post # 13
It’s not tacky at all! One of my best friends did this in December and it was totally, totally awesome. Very intimate and very sweet. We had a great time (I was one of the lucky ones to be invited) and I really wish we could do something similar.
Post # 14
As the others said, not tacky! I love that idea and would have done it this way if we hadn’t chosen a Destination Wedding…
It will be lovely!
Post # 15
That’s exactly what we’re doing! We’ve chosen a gorgeous restaurant that has Sunday brunch, so we can have brunch menu or lunch..or a combo of both. we have about 55 ppl coming…1 hour reception first, then luncheon…plus the place has a jazz brunch so a woman is singing while we’re eating! Our friends and family are very excited and it’s easier to plan…not as much stuff to do…here’s some pics of where we’re having our wedding luncheon…
Post # 16
I love this idea and the restaurant looks AMAZING! I think everyone will have a great time, and it will be so nice to be able to spend quality time with your guests.