Post # 1
I want to hear about your intimate weddings! We are looking at renting a restaurant and having approx. 30 people there. I know it will still be special because it is our wedding day — but how did you make your small day still very special?
I’m thinking still relatively formal, still have my big dress, still splurging on photography…
I just want to hear about your experiences and ideas. Anything you would have changed or regretted?
Post # 3
@ashleekathryn: Our wedding seems big but I consider it intamite because EVERYONE there is close family with the exception of the bridal party. We have 75 people and rented a cabin to have a celebration on property. I feel as thought it will be intimate because it is run by us and will only have our loved ones present (no room for friends or distant relatives)
Post # 4
Well, ours hasn’t happened yet, but I can tell you our plans!
We are getting married in a very small outdoor chapel with about 17 guests:
And then we are having dinner in a private room at a nearby restaurant. If the weather is okay, after dinner we will walk across the street to a lake and release wish lanterns, like this:
We definitely splurged on our photographer, whose work I absolutely love. My dress is pretty casual and was fairly inexpensive, but I’m not that into the dress thing anyway. Here it is:
Our wedding is definitely going to be special to us because we wrote our entire ceremony and are having a friend officiate. Also, FI’s family will be traveling 1000+ miles to get to the wedding location, so we’ll be spending lots of time with them, going to theme parks, etc, so that’s going to be a blast.
Also, since we both have rather large families, we’re having casual receptions (one in my hometown and one in FI’s) to celebrate with everyone after the fact.
Post # 5
I’m having a big wedding, but my sister is planning a very small family only ceremony/dinner. She also has a regular big old wedding dress and will be hiring a photographer, but it will just be very small. Both of their parents, siblings, and grandparents and that’s it.
@howsweetitis: That location is GORGEOUS!!
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We had a 30 person wedding at a bed and breakfast. We had a 30 minute ceremony that we wrote officiated by a friend who was ordained for the purpose. I had a matron of honor and a man of honor, and Mr. Lk had a best man. We also had a sign bearer (our 1.5 year old adorable nephew). We did the traditional wedding garb complete with tuxes and my big dress. Following the ceremony everyone strolled to another section of the b&b for cocktail hour. Then we served a 4 course dinner paired with wine and beer (depending on which pairing series the guest selected) with everyone seated at one very long table. We ended the evening with cigars and several scotch selections out in the garden. No parent dances, no garter toss, no limo, no grand exit… just a really elegant, really awesome dinner party with our absolute favorite people in the world. Perfect. <3 Photos here:
Post # 7
@ashleekathryn: we planned for 30, ended up with 45 invites (including +1 for all the single guests but no one brought a date), 100% Yes RSVP rate, and ended up with 37 total including DH and myself. Even with such a small group I still felt like I didn’t get to talk with everyone as much as I wanted. I have no idea how people handle hundreds of guests!
We had most of the traditional things, including a first dance. (This is from our practice before hand.) We served dinner family style, had traditional toasts, DJ, etc. No bouquet/garter tosses though! We choose quality over quantity, really good wine for the open bar, awesome food…trying to be the best hosts we could be.
Post # 8
Totally doing it! We’re doing a Disneyland Escapes wedding so our guest list is limited to 18 people. One of our friends is marrying us (he’s married several of our friends before). We always knew that we wanted a small wedding, but when we ran into endless trouble with venues not allowing us unless we added 40+ people we found this package. I am so excited!
Probably the only ‘traditional’ thing we’ll skip is the garter toss (I made a kick ass garter, but we’ll firgure out some use for it). Other than than we’ll be doing everything the tradional way.
Plans are underway to have a super casual party that Saturday (we’re getting married on our anniversary that Thrusday) for our extended friends.
Post # 9
@howsweetitis: that outdoor wedding space is amazing omg i had a lil heartache for the beauty of it
Post # 10
@Payless: Sounds amazing!! 🙂 Thanks for sharing 🙂
Post # 11
@howsweetitis: Thanks for your input — and the pictures! That outdoor chapel is probably the coolest thing I’ve ever seen!! and your dress is perfect with it! Sounds like a very special day. I’d love to do wish lanterns too. 🙂
Post # 12
That sounds (and looks) wonderful!! We found a restaurant finally so I think I’ll post photos of that here 🙂 You found it still felt very special though? I’m just terrified of it feeling like we’re “just out for dinner” lol…. Yours sounded so special though.
Post # 13
@Goofball: Wow that sounds great!! 🙂 thanks for sharing the pics and the story 🙂
@renwoman: That sounds super special!! Unfortunately we cannot do a destination wedding but if we could that would definitely be an option. It sounds great!
Post # 14
We had a guest list of 36 people on our wedding day. Our ceremony took place at a pretty little chapel with dinner following at a restaurant my SO and I really enjoy. We kept it pretty low-key but still incorporated a number of traditional elements – I wore a big, white dress, he wore a nice suit, we had toasts, a guest-book, pro photography, and a cake cutting.
My favorite thing about keeping it small (outside of being able to spend more time with our guests) was that it allowed me to add in all the extra, little DIY touches I wanted without a bunch of added stress.
We don’t have our pro pics back yet, but here are a few of the “reception” portion of the evening.
The space (from their website gallery):
and on our big day:
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
@ashleekathryn: It was more than special… it was magic. We are not big crowd people, so having a big wedding would have been less special for us because it would have been so stressful. Keeping it small made the experience better for us. And we’ve spontaneously heard from numerous guests that it was the best wedding they ever attended. In fact, a friend who swore he never wanted a wedding actually changed his mind after ours on the condition that his then girlfriend/now wife agreed to do something small like we did. Obviously we had no idea that our wedding would change his mind, but we’re so glad that it showed him there was another way to have a wedding (as opposed to the big NJ weddings he was used to).
Post # 16
We had 35 people at our wedding and it was perfect! It felt just like a regular wedding to me, except we were close with everyone 🙂