Post # 1
Ok, obviously not a million attendants, but originally we (and by we I mean FI) were planning for a large-ish wedding of around 150 guests. So, since we didn’t want to pick and choose which friends/siblings to ask, we asked all of our favorite people to be in our wedding party. So I have 6 on my side, and he has 5.
But the more we planned our wedding, the more we realized that we really just want our nearest and dearest there, so the guest list has been shaved down to about 70 people, and of course not everyone is going to be able to make it…
But we still have 5 groomsmen and 6 bridesmaids, because I am not about to un-ask anyone, but we’re much happier with the smaller wedding size.
Has anyone gone to a wedding that had a rather large amount of attendants but a smaller guest list? Be honest, is it going to look strange or am I over thinking this?
Post # 2
MrsRoberts52: I think you’re overthinking it. I doubt I’d notice something like that unless there were more attendants on one side than guests lol
Post # 3
MrsRoberts52: It’ll be fine. It is a large party for a small wedding, but the negligible amount of weirdness is completely outweighted by the serious issue of un-asking anyone (unless you un-asked them all). Don’t worry about it! Most people wouldn’t even notice and the ones that do probably won’t think much of it.
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s going to look strange. Having people stand up with you is so much more about your relationships and what they mean to you, than whether or not it “goes” with your wedding or looks okay.
Post # 5
That shouldn’t look strange at all.
Seventy people is still a nice sized group of people, so eleven people other than the bride, groom, and officiant standing at the altar will most likely look just fine.
Post # 6
MrsRoberts52: we had less than 60 guests and 8 attendants. It was a little weird but I’m sure no one else thought so (Our guest list was 125…we obviously had a lot of declines)
Post # 7
Thanks you guys, this makes me feel a lot better. I’ve noticed that I seem to always have something tiny I’m stressing about so at least I can cross this off my worry list. 🙂
Post # 8
MrsRoberts52: You’re totally overthinking this. I am expecting between 80-90 people and FI and I are each having eight on each side…I’ve never even considered someone might think it was weird. I also don’t subscribe to the idea that the wedding party needs to be somewhat proportional to the guest count. I really don’t think it matters.
Post # 9
MrsRoberts52: We had 6 on each side and an 80 person wedding
Post # 10
Which means only 66 of those people were in the audience, since 14 were up at the altar!