- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
I’m new to this site, but I LOVE the advice that everyone so readily offers each other!
I’m (recently) engaged to a wonderful man who is currently enlisted in the Air Force, and is PCSing to Germany… leaving in April So, I’ve tried to throw some wedding ideas around to get his input on everything before he leaves, even tho if it was up to him, we would probably just go to the courthouse. But, he and I have de
We plan to pay for everything (unless someone decides to contribute), and would like to have a small wedding for around $5k. Only problem is, my mother isn’t sold on the idea.The venue we have in mind- a bed and breakfast- allows us a 20 person reception that comes with EVERYTHING including 2 nights in a private cottage for us: we would be able to invite our IMMEDIATE families (parents and our siblings), 5 closest friends, including the person who introduced us, and then include an officiant and his wife, and maybe my godparents.I have a total of 10 aunts and uncles (and their soused and children), and A LOT of extended family who wouldn’t be coming, and my parents are worried that they’ll be upset. But if NONE of them come, as opposed to only SOME of them, should they be really upset?
Am I wrong to think that, ultimately, if WE’RE paying, we should be able to do this however we would like to??
My actual concern is the fact that I live in MD and my fiance is originally from Alabama. Because I’ll have trouble setting a date until after I finish grad school next spring and he can schedule leave, it would be hard to plan ahead so that many of his extended family members could attend. And I don’t want to have a huge event, with mostly just my family and friends, and only a few guests of his.
I’m thinking of compromising with my mom, by having my small event, then a post-wedding brunch the next day with our families, and some fam n friends who weren’t at the wedding, and then the following wknd (after his family has left) a larger reception in Philadelphia (my family’s homewtown) with most of my other relatives, etc. That way everyone will be able to celebrate with us at some point.
Any thoughts or advice?