Post # 1
First of all I would like to say hello to all you lovely ladies! I’ve been a lurker from some time now and I have “voted” the odd time but never have made a comment yet, I promise I will begin to contribute where I can from now on, I just wanted to introduce myself first.
I live in Ontario, that’s up north to most of you ladies “EH”! (Sorry, I just had to say that, I have quite a few American friends and they all laugh when I say that, cause usually I dont even notice it, and I do say it in written form quite often as well). I guess you can say im a lady in waiting, patiently no less. I am 27 years old, with two little girls of my own 5 and 7 years old. My BF is 36 with a daughter who is 6. We met through family/friends.
We know we will be getting married, he is more pushy about it than I am actually. I’m just over here like “let’s get some rings, and some nice shoes and go elope” no big deal right. I’m more interested in the man not the event. Problem is we both come from large portuguese families, with my family being the largest of the 2 families. My side alone would amount up to about 160 people, his 100ish.
I for one HATE large crowds and instantly get sick to my stomach. Although we havent quite got around to discussing logistics I already know I dont want to pay for such a HUGE affair nor will I be able to stand it. So I am putting my foot down and saying, only immediate family and close friends. That would put us around about 40-50 people which I think would be FANTASTIC.
So I’m curious what would be a typical budget for this size wedding? Were you still able to make it look and feel classy, or was it very laid back and casual? Did you have a dance after the dinner?
I really need some ideas so I know what I’m working with here. I would LOVE to see some pics of centerpieces or dresses or anything that you used or will be using.
Post # 3
You’ve got a lot of options! We’re going to have around 75 people, plated dinner and dancing. We wanted a more upscale event, just without the ridiculous crowds. Not counting dresses, suits and rings, we’re sitting around 10k. But I did a lot of the decor myself – I’m a walking allergy, so we’re going with origami flowers.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Ifoundone: My 100 person wedding was about $10k USD in a smaller town for an average wedding. I wanted something more intimate but DH has a lot of friends he refused to not invite *smh*
Sounds like you two should elope if the big families is a problem. Or what about courthouse wedding and small reception?
Post # 5
i am having this dilema, my husband (were planning a vow renewal) has 19 siblings, we cant spend alot of money but the guest list is killing me, we have HUGE families, and we already cut all the non-inmediate family and friends, still have a huge guest list, dont know where to make some cuts:(
Post # 6
@Ifoundone: This sounds a lot like my first budget/family/eloping or staying distress messages when I suscribed here, lol !
FI was more pushy than me about a marriage. I would have been happy to remain common-law. FI has a larger family than I have. I wanted to elope because I didn’t like the idea of spending money over a wedding, but FI thought his mother would be extremely upset. And then I realized, so would mine. So we decided to stay and have a budget-wedding. We decided to invite only our ”closest” family members :
– Both sets of parents, obviously.
– Our siblings and their SOs (3 couples)
– Aunts and uncles and their SOs
– 2 cousins his age he’s closer to ; all my cousins (I only have 5 and they’re all adults) + their SOs.
– Hopefully, my grandfather !
That puts us at around 56 guests + ourselves, and we’re trying to stay somewhere between 5 and 7K for the whole thing, including rings, stamps, etc. However, that’s because we’re highly limitating our expenses, because the meal alone is over 4K and you know how alcohol can be expensive in Canada. So basically, we decided to have low budget for us and use as few vendors as possible, and I’ll craft centerpieces and decor elements.
I think 10-12K would be reasonable for your crowd if you want to go the traditional route and have fresh flowers, a cake, pro photographer, DJ, etc.
Post # 7
Probably will be just about 125
Post # 8
We are inviting right around 350 people. We don’t have a budget but for everything included we will be spending right around $20K. That includes ceremony venue (church), officiant & musicians, reception hall with tables,linens, etc included, full buffett, full open bar for 5 hours, all decor and lighting, cake, photographer, dress, DJ, and all the little details. For the food and drinks we’re looking at about $12K. 260 people really doesn’t sound that large to me. The majority of weddings I’ve attended are 400+ people. I’m attending three weddings this summer, all of which have a guest list over 350 people. It’s totally doable regardless of budget!
Post # 9
I live in Ontario too. We are inviting about 120-130 people but are only expecting about 90-100 people. We are having a sit down plated dinner, taco bar and open bar. All food needs to be from our venue except for our candy bar and wedding cake. We set our budget for 25K however, I don’t think we’ll even go over 20K. We are thinking food and alcohol around $8500-9500 (guessing because of open bar and 3 course meal and taco bar all coming from our venue) and we have a 15K budget for everything else which we don’t think we’ll even come close to using it all but didn’t want to limit ourselves with anything). My dress is origianlly $1260 but received a generous shower gift already for $1100 so its basically paid off, my decorator is taking care of my centerpieces and are about $40 to rent but they are tall candle center pieces with hanging crystals which i have never seen used before in my area. If I were having a 40-50 people wedding, I would make it how I would want it to feel. If you wanna have dinner and dancing go for it!!
Post # 10
We had a very traditional wedding with 80 people in Ontario and ours cost $15,000. It really depends what you want. If you want something traditional with the cake and band and everything 10k id say. But if you want something more intimate – maybe at a restaurant or somethign you could do it for less.
Post # 11
FI and I wanted a small intimate wedding with only immediate family and close friends. His side alone would be 200. We’re inviting 40 and spending a little less than $12,000. We are having a plated dinner with mulitple courses (where a lot of budget went towards). Our budget includes everything from videographer, officiant, venue, decor, dress, etc.
I’ve seen wedding with 150 guests for $10,000 or 70 guests for $20,000. It just depends on where you make cuts and what’s important and what isn’t to you.