Post # 1
I’ve been hanging around this board for a little bit now and have finally decided to make an intro post. I am waiting for my boyfriend of over 2 years to propose. We have made the move from “if” we get married to “when” we get married. We’ve been long-distance for a good chunk of our relationship and I’m going to spend a month with him starting the second weekend of September.
Since we’ve talked about e-rings and even given a time-frame by which we want to be married, I’m excitedly thinking that he might propose during this visit. However, I really don’t want to set myself up for disappointment–especially since I’d essentially be riding my own little rollercoaster everyday for a month.
I’m wondering: How do you ladies calm your nerves of anticipation? I’m excited now, by the end of a month-long visit I’ll have developed a twitch. Any advice?
Post # 3
first, welcome to the hive! you’ll like it around these parts.
second, advice. hmm, i just try to not think about it so much. we’re in an ldr as well so whenever i get ready for a visit, i actually have to convince family and friends to not expect anything, which actually helps me to calm down. i also know that nothing will happen for us until we’re in the same city so that’s managed to help distract me a bit from the heavily anticipated and impending marriage-dom.
you can do what i do and repeat, “not this visit” over and over again. it helps so i can just enjoy the visit for what it is and not worry about being disappointed.
but enjoy your visit!
Post # 4
i come on the board to vent lol!! just relax and enjoy your time with your honey. even if it’s not the time for your proposal, it is the time for you to enjoy your relationship and spend time together when it’s just to the two of you being like you have always been up to this point looking forward to the future.
Post # 5
Thanks for the advice Tea. I’ll just have to keep telling myself “not this visit” and try to put it out of my mind. Crebre80, you hit the nail on the head–my concern is that I’ll be so wrapped up in wanting and waiting for a proposal that I won’t just enjoy my guy’s company. Also, I probably will be back to vent at some point. I try to be good, but I do get so frustrated sometimes. Thanks!
Post # 6
Welcome! I am in a LDR too, and I will be going to visit him for 10 days starting this weekend! I wish I had a month, that would be amazing. Anyway, I was really nervous to commit to making this trip. Not because I don’t want to spend as much time as possible but because I was scared to be on the one-woman-waiting-coaster the whole time. The last thing I want is to go down there and be sweet and loving one day and turn around and bite his head off the next, which I’ve been known to do since I’ve had engagement brain. I told myself that it’s not going to happen on this trip, and it won’t. There have been plenty of times that it could have happened and it didn’t, this will be the same. I can’t plan the proposal, and I don’t want to, so I am going to make myself forget about it. That being said, he knows not to talk about our future at all–don’t bring it up, because then I have license to talk about it. Hopefully that will work, and hopefully it will happen very very soon for you!
Post # 7
Welcome welcome! How exciting that you get a month with him – my boy and I are only an hour away from eachother and sometimes we don’t see eachother for that amount of time just because our crappy schedules! I would just be sure to tell yourself beforehand “not right now.” You’ll know when it’s right … I’m sure of it!