Post # 1
This might sound silly, but I feel funny thinking about introducing my BF as my now FI. No one knows we are engaged and my extended family hasn’t met him yet. I’m telling my parents today we are engaged. We are having a family event tomorrow, which he’ll be meeting some of my relatives for the first time.
When you first got engaged, did you start introducing him as your Fiance? or did you still say BF? Did you feel funny saying Fiance?
Post # 3
I had called him my boyfriend for almost ten years, so it took a little bit of time to remember to call him “fiance”. It felt strange in a wonderful way 🙂
Post # 4
I tend to just introduce him by his Name. If it’s to new people who don’t him it’s ok, but to family and friends it would kind of become redundant to introduce him that way in a party to multiple people.
Post # 5
The chance from BF to FI was super weird for me. I caught myself going “This is my boyfiance”. 😀
And then the switch from Fiance to Husband was even more weird! 😀
Post # 6
You bet your ass I call him fiance. I waited 5 years for this ring. I’m livin’ it up! Plus, our families refer to us as each other’s fiance’s, or they call him my beau. I tried to ask the question once here on the board why so many people think this word is pretentious, because I don’t understand that at all. It’s a nice word, and it makes the relationship sound more official, imo. Doesn’t mean it is more official or not, it just sounds more official..just like husband is more official than fiance, because of the obvious.
Post # 7
I still call him both, but I use BF more.
Post # 8
I STILL cant say fiance. It just doesnt work with my mouth. I’m always going “My boyfrie-no, my fee… fee…. on say?”
Post # 9
same i use bf cuz it feels weird to say FI. introduces me as his FI all the time.. lol i no longer have a name, just a title. i always feel like when i use Fi it changes the topic of the conversations towards us getting married where we’re talking about other things.
Post # 10
@JoolyBee: I’m with you! lol. But I was feeling the same way about it sounding too pretentious. My family sucks and would think that I’m calling him my Fiance on purpose even more to rub it in their face…. maybe I am? lol. You’re right, I’m going to live it up, lol.
Post # 11
I never had a problem using fiancé when I was engaged, and I don’t think I will in the future either. I think boyfriend sounds so immature and high school that I jump at the idea of getting to use a more mature-sounding term haha.
Post # 12
When we first got engaged I had such a hard time using the word “fiance” as he had been my boyfriend for 4 years. However I had waited so long to use the term that I loved to throw it around. Now that we’ve been engaged for a year it feels weird to say “boyfriend”. I can’t wait to call him my hubby though 🙂
Post # 13
@MissCalifornia: That’s how I feel too about saying bf. lol
Post # 14
@echolove: Rub it in their face?? What, do they want to marry him? lol. I plain don’t think it’s a pretentious word. If I introduce him or refer to him as my fiance, and they say “oh! congratulations! When’s the wedding?” I thank them, tell them “this summer” and the covnersation carries on normally.
Post # 15
In the past year or so I’d started calling him my partner because I felt a little silly calling him by boyfriend at this point. Since we’ve been engaged I’ve just continued caling him my partner. I feel like calling him my fiance is sort of asking for congratulations and makes me feel awkward, especially if it’s in a conversation with someone I don’t know very well. I figure they can easily figure out the situation from the ring on my finger!
Post # 16
My husband and I hated the word “fiance”. It’s pretentious, snooty, hoity toity. We never used it.
During our engagement, we called each other “Not girlfriend” and “Not boyfriend.”