- Ms. OCD
- 8 years ago
Hello! I’m new to joining the board but have looked through a lot of wonderful posts over a few weeks. Please forgive me if I babble throughout this post, and know that I completely respect everyone’s opinions, I’m just saying what my personal tastes are on topics.
I guess I’ll begin with some regular facts:
Name: Ms. OCD
Partner: Mr. OCD (but not really)
Location: Houston, Texas
Job: Theatre Stage Manager
Relationship Status: Almost Engaged (to be explained below)
Mr. OCD and I met in college freshman year at Swing Dance Club. We’ve been dating for 5 1/2 years (trust me, I know). I am OCD about most everything but he couldn’t care less, so that can be fun.
I’ve been wanting to get married since 2009 and he’s been on me about it since 2007, so that’s stereotypically backwards. We’re looking at Spring of 2011 for our wedding.
I don’t like engagement rings. Well, that’s not really accurate; I don’t like diamonds. I think they’re colorless and see-through and SNORE. I could never find a ring I liked because I was looking at a diamond and fell into a deep pit of apathy for the whole thing. Then I remembered that I love sapphires, so that problem solved.
Also against me is that I don’t like ring designs that are in style right now. I don’t like diamonds and curly cues and stuff all over the place (no offense to anyone else, it’s just fussy to me).
Believe me, there are only so many ideas under the sun for rings and most of them are elaborate. I am looking for a simple solitaire that a non-custom wedding band could set flush against.
Does that sound difficult? It is! Either they didn’t have what I wanted or they didn’t sell the setting without a diamond (or with a sapphire instead).
So, all that said, Mr. OCD and I went to a jewelers in late February to design a simple ring with a sapphire. I was apprehensive, but I described a solitaire with three “surpise diamonds on each side, and off it went for a wax molding. It took forever. In early May the wax mold came in and I didn’t like it because it was clunky looking, but I was assured it would slim down and off it went again to be actually created.
In the meantime I went through 4 rounds of loose sapphires trying to find a color I liked. They kept getting dark, grey-blue stones and I wanted a vibrant blue. I finally got one like this:
Totally excited beyond all reason. Then the ring came in in mid May and…not so much. Thick metal and tall and the surprise diamonds were way too big and it was unfinished and crooked… They sent it back and shaved it down a bit but it still wasn’t what I wanted. Also, they scratched the sapphire. Seriously. Needless to say I was devastated. Mr. OCD was irritated too, because we decided to get engaged before June and now…difficult. So they’re sending off for a new sapphire and I found another premade ring I love that hadn’t been in stores or online until after we designed the ring (of course):
(Without the knife edge and with sapphire) AWESOMENESS! Simple! Solitaire! Band sits flush! Check, check, check!
So all the money is going towards this ring once we figure out if I’m getting Palladium or Platinum (Mr. OCD has something about Platinum). I’m exhausted and I would really like to wear my engagement ring while I’m engaged.
Additionally, I live with my roommate from college and she is getting married June 5 and I’m a bridesmaid. I bring this up because I am so happy that I got to go through the wedding planning process vicarously and can see what doesn’t work and what I don’t care about at all. Example: bridesmaid dresses. She cares, but I don’t at all. Everyone wearing the same dress/color with matching hair and slk35ednfoiwej546andklfj932:
Sorry, I fell asleep on my keyboard.
Not to say those dresses aren’t pretty, but I like differences and things intentionally not matching! Put on a dress that you have (or really wanted to buy but needed an excuse), make it a color, and show up prettified. That is all.
Anywhoodle, this has been a really long post, sorry. Again, please don’t think I am disparaging anyone’s ideas because they are different from my own.