- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
Hello all, I’ve been perusing the boards for a while and figured I’d introduce myself.
Me and my SO have been together since our senior year in high school (he picked a girl in goth clothes with blue hair bless his heart) and are now going on 8 years in February ’15. We both have stable jobs in education and have been living together for 15 months. We have always discussed spending our lives together, and have been very serious since that fateful day when he asked me to prom (as you all know, that is as serious as a 17 year old gets).
We share everything, are open with eachother about our emotions and my family adores him and his loves me (so they tell me!). My home life growing up had its challenges, so this stable life I’ve built with my SO feels like a dream. I still sometimes fear that the floor will fall out from below me, but he has helped me to grow past these feelings of anxiety about abandonment.
I brought up the initial discussion of engagement, mostly because my SO is less of an action person than I am. He actually tempers my overactivity sometimes, which is good. He makes me sit back and take a deep breath and I make him move and take action. I asked him if he thought engagement was something he would want and he instantly said yes, and talked about how he had been thinking about it but had no idea where to start. So I began sending him very gentle emails with links to pictures of rings I loved. (I combined my love for simplicity and frugality so none of the rings are over the top or majorly expensive). We were quiet about it for quite some time. I don’t want to push him, I’m not overly concerned with the ring, but I would love to be a fiance instead of a girlfriend finally.
In the past couple weeks, he’s started talking about engagement rings and weddings. He has started asking me where I would want to get married and saying things that indicate he is thinking about proposing. He was also referencing a specific jewler, which for him is miraculous. So now, I suppose I am waiting for the ring! We have a big trip planned but he has said specifically that it won’t be then (which I believe because we planned it before any of this ring buisness). I am not really too worried about when he does it, I’m just excited that he is so excited to spend his life with me and make this committement.