- 6 years ago
Hi bees, I’m pretty new to the site and have, unfortunately, found myself back in an LDR with my boyfriend.
In short, we’re high school sweethearts who have been together since we were 16 & 17 (now 20 & 21). We did long distance for about 15 months near the beginning of our relationship, because he went away for a summer job with no way of contacting me 5 days a week, went away to university for eight months, then went back to the same summer job for four months. While he was away at the job, we couldn’t talk a lot but we were able to see each other two days a week and when he was at school we were able to talk almost every night.
We started long distance again at the start of July, when I moved back for school after being close distance for nearly two years, and living together for eight months during the 2009-2010 school year and for the month before I moved. I had adjusted pretty well until recently, when he started shiftwork.
He graduates as a paramedic in a couple of months, so he is doing what is essentially an unpaid apprenticeship right now. He’s constantly working 12-hour days (6 til 6, either nights or days) and I’m in the mad dash at the end of a university semester, so our contact is more limited than it was at the start of October.
Does anybody have any advice for me, since I’m still new to this, if not LD in general? Even if not, anybody else have a SO who works weird hours or work weird hours themselves in addition to being in a LDR? I see so many people talking about wanting to have phone calls with their SO every day and, while I would like to do that, it isn’t going to happen for us.