Introverts Assemble!

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Post # 3
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852 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

 

I also scored 78 on the test.  MY DH scored a 78 on the extroversion.  It works… it works very well…….

My mother is the worst at accepting my introversion and my DH is the most accepting and understanding.

Wedding planning was extremely challenging for me and the wedding has left me in a very confused state with many people (introverts tend to be highly sensitive people and lets just say some people were simply unkind to me on my wedding day)

Books that have helped me: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking and The Highly Sensitive Person……

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

I can’t seem to copy/paste your OP to answer the Qs. I’ll just do a brief synopsis 🙂

I’m joya aspera. It means rough gem in Spanish. I like gemstones and how they come from the earth and are cut and polished and all that jazz. And I like Spanish.

I’m an introvert because I say so. I’m not an extreme introvert, but I am one. I have a very active internal world. I am always thinking, thinking, thinking, feeling, feeling, thinking, thinking. Nothing triggers my introversion, it’s a constant. If you mean what makes it noticeable? Often I don’t bother long with small talk, and I hate things like 45 minute long “goodbye and thanks for the party, the party’s winding down and now I’m tired and leaving… now let’s hover at the door murmuring nothings in a group for ages and ages. Ok, let’s each make sure to hug each person and murmur a nothing at them (is there anyone in the bathroom or that we have otherwise missed somehow? Let’s stall and see if anyone else wanders into view for a while), this is an essential part of party exit” …crap like that.

I’m engaged. My FI considers himself introverted too, but most people would think he’s extroverted. He’s very charismatic and good with small talk. But again he’s more of an internal world person. He really doesn’t give a flying crap about small talk, it’s a skill rather than a pleasure for him.

My superhero name would be (my real first name) and my super power would be the Ability to Control Time. Seriously, I fantasize about this all the time.

I think all introverts basically understand my introversion.

I usually tell anyone (flaming extroverts included) what’s on my mind (contrary to introvert stereotypes, I’m quite fiesty and can match or outdo vocal volume of others when needed), and I usually haven’t felt a need to justify my introversion. Some people who want to see me more often than I want to see them have to be told “This is just the pace at which I do things socially, it’s not like I socialize with everyone else more than you or anything like that. I like my alone time,” and even (SIGH, but this was a family member, so I bothered to tolerate their offensive ignorance about it,) “Actually, my pace is just as valid as your pace.”

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

What’s my username?

TGold – it’s taken from my real name but vague enough to stay anonymoud.

How do I know I’m an Introvert?

I can spend days in my apartment, by myself, not talking to anyone and feel totally fine.  After spending a long time around people (especially people I’m not close with), I feel emotionally drained.  I HATE small talk with strangers.

Favorite Activities?

Netflix marathons, cooking, reading, cuddling with my cat, listening to podcasts.

Relationship Status?

Engaged since June!  We’ve been together for about 6 1/2 years.

Anything that seems to trigger your Introversion?

Networking events!  I am the worst, most awkward person at networking.  Ever.  I have a friend who is also an introvert and we’ve tried several times to support each other in networking; every single time we leave early to go drink wine and just talk to each other.  Really any situation where there are many people I don’t know and no real reason to get to know them.  Unless I think I think talking will lead to a lasting friendship, I’m just not that into it.

If you were secretly a Superhero, what would be your name and superpower?

Not sure on the name, but definitely invisibility.  I am extremely nosey, so I would love to spy on people.

Who, in your personal life, is the worst at understanding and accepting your Introversion?

Probably my dad.  He can talk to anyone about anything and generally thinks he’s the best person in the room.

Who, in your personal life, understands and accepts your Introversion the most?

My FI and one of my best friends from highschool.  FI is fairly introverted and loves that we can sit in a room together each doing our own thing with no pressure to talk.  My friend also needs a lot of “alone time” so she gets it.

If you could tell an Extrovert anything about what it’s like to be Introverted, what would you say?

If I want to have an alone day rather than hang out with you, it truly is nothing personal.  It doesn’t reflect on our friendship or how much I care about you.  It’s just that seeing people too often drains me physically and emotionally, and I want to make sure I have enough energy to have a great time when we hang out.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@LoggerHead91207:  

What’s my username?

Hi, I’m Ruby-Redshoes. I chose Ruby because it’s a nickname that lends itself to my real life name, and Redshoes because I like the way it sounds and I want to get married in a pair of red shoes. 

How do I know I’m an Introvert?

Well, in addition to taking the Meyer-Briggs and getting 80% for Introversion, I have an anxiety disorder that makes me crappy at socialising. Social interaction physically tires me – usually after I’ve done some kind of Social Thing I have to at least take a nap because I’m so drained. I love to spend time with my friends, but even when I’m enjoying myself it’s an effort to be around other people for a long time. 

Favorite Activities?

Reading, watching good tv, writing (mostly little skits, musicals and plays), baking, and half-assing DIY projects. 

Anything that seems to trigger your Introversion?

Going to places were I don’t know anyone, being around intimidatingly good looking/well put together people, being in a situation where I have to mingle on my own.

Relationship Status?

I’m engaged to a wonderful guy and we’re getting married next year. 

If you were secretly a Superhero, what would be your name and superpower?

I’d like to be able to control water and ride on a magical flying unicorn. My name would be Aquamarinne (deliberately spelled with two ‘n’s). That or invisibility. 

Who, in your personal life, is the worst at understanding and accepting your Introversion?

I’m lucky to have a great, supportive mom and (step)dad, but when I was younger my bio dad (who is a real asshole) gave me a lot of shit for it when I was a teenager. Nowadays it’s just the same kind of ignorant people who think my anxiety disorder is just shyness that I can get over. 

Who, in your personal life, understands and accepts your Introversion the most?

Tossup between my mom and my FH. At this stage in my life, probably my FH. 

If you could tell an Extrovert anything about what it’s like to be Introverted, what would you say?

I would say there is nothing wrong with being an introvert. It doesn’t make me stuck up, boring, weird, socialy awkward (I do that all on my own), or any other bad things. It’s hard to put myself out there, so please stop trying to change me. I know you think you’re helping by dragging me out to places and making me feel bad about my shyness, but you’re not. I only trust a handful of people to peek inside my shell and tell me to come out, and if I have to direct this to you then you’re not one of them. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Iammcdibble here. My username is kind of a spinoff from my name, but something very few people would identify me with.

how do I know I’m an introvert? Well, I’ve never taken the Myers-Briggs although it something I’ve always meant to do.  I’ve actually just recently realized my introversion and how serious it is.  When I’m around people I’m very close with- friends and family , I’m very outgoing. But if I’m  put in any sort of social situation,  it really becomes apparent. 

my favorite activities are reading, Netflix marathons, running, drawing, and playing with my cat.

the only thing that triggers me is being put in a social situation where I don’t know anyone. Usually, knowing at least one other person helps though. I’m terrible at mingling and small talk, and generally freeze  whenever someone so much as says hi to me.

ive been married now for 5 months.

if I were a superhero, my name would be McDibble and I’d have the power to fly, or teleport or something where I can go far distances in a very short amount of time.

some of my friends don’t really get my introversion. They think that because they don’t see it, it doesn’t exist. It’s not as big of a problem now, but when I was younger, and had roommates they would give me shot for wanring to be alone and read.

DH and my dad get it really well. My dad actually caught on well before I did, and DH knows that sometimes I just need my space. We have 2 bedrooms, so it’s nice because I can go off by myself and read or whatever.

i I could tell an extrovert anything, it would be, that I’m sorry II’m so awkward and  please don’t take it personally, but it’s just easier for me to pretend that you don’t exist.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

What’s my username?

Bowser Girl – it’s a play off a family name. My mother would always tell me Bowser girls are tough. And I like Mario!

How do I know I’m an Introvert?

I knew everyone in HS, had a large group of friends, and regularly did public speaking. But after I graduated I spent a summer volunteering in South Africa. When I was out of my element volunteering with complete strangers, I realized I was an introvert. I couldn’t connect with any of the volunteers and often felt a bit like an outsider. When I began university it was the same way — and I LOATHED all the large group gathering and constant small talk.

Favorite Activities?

Cooking, art, watching select television shows, film, bowling

Relationship Status?

Engaged. To be married in January.

Anything that seems to trigger your Introversion?

Any group interaction with greater than 3-5 people. Meeting someone for the very first time (FSIL thought I hated her at first because I was so quiet, and now we’re great friends). Also — phone calls. I have to rehearse the whole conversation before I call someone because it stresses me.

If you were secretly a Superhero, what would be your name and superpower?

My superpower would be either teleportation or the ability to learn languages instantly. Idk about name!

Who, in your personal life, is the worst at understanding and accepting your Introversion?

My mother. She thinks I should just go out and meet more people and do more things, but I am perfectly happy with who I am. She has been outright rude to me to occassion because of my introversion – she’s even flat out told me I am not an introvert… okay, lady.

Who, in your personal life, understands and accepts your Introversion the most?

Probably my FI and three best friends — although I will say they all find it annoying when I refuse to ask salespeople for help in stores.

If you could tell an Extrovert anything about what it’s like to be Introverted, what would you say?

I can be perfectly content with having only a few best friends AND still feel lonely sometimes. It doesn’t mean I need to go make more friends. It means I need time with the people I already know and love, dammit!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

After reading more responses about who is the worst at understanding your introversion, I realized what my answer should have been:  camp counselors!!!  I went to day-camp for years and was constantly pushed to join in, get out there, speak up, etc. when I was 100% happy either observing people or doing arts and crafts by myself.  I know it’s their job and all, but I remember hating camp for that reason.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

What’s my username?

 

Verlidaine. It’s from a book series I absolutely loved when I was younger. The main character Verlidaine (Daine for short) has magic powers and can talk to and heal animals.

 

How do I know I’m an Introvert?

 

I enjoy spending time by myself. Meeting a lot of new people is exhausting. When I went ring shopping with FI I got very overwhelmed having to make chitchat with all the salespeople.

 

Favorite Activities?

 

Reading (mostly science fiction or fantasy), watching/reading completely random stuff on the internet. I used to do karate too, but I work nights now and can’t make the training times. I wish I was better at motivating myself because I really miss it.

 

Relationship Status?

 

Engaged, the wedding will be spring 2015 if FI and I ever get around to actually planning it.

 

Anything that seems to trigger your Introversion?

 

Trying to get to know new people. I feel like I should be friendlier to people at work, but honestly, I dont really care what you did over the weekend. I don’t want to sound jerky, it’s just that it takes me a while to be invested in other people’s activities.

 

If you were secretly a Superhero, what would be your name and superpower?

 

Oh my god there are so many good ones from PPs. It sounds a little lame but I think somehow being able to magically clean would be great. FI and I are both pretty messy, and I wish our place was less of a disaster.

 

Who, in your personal life, is the worst at understanding and accepting your Introversion?

 

My family are surprisingly good about it. Maybe FMIL, i know she wishes we would make more friends. Honestly she is probably right. Neither of us have people we are close with nearby, aside from each other. 

 

Who, in your personal life, understands and accepts your Introversion the most?

 

FI is great he is perfectly happy playing a video game or something while I read all day.

 

 

 

And finally:

 

If you could tell an Extrovert anything about what it’s like to be Introverted, what would you say?

 

I just take a while to warm up. It’s Nothing personal.

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

What’s my username? wannabeemrsb… nothing too interesting behind my username! 

How do I know I’m an introvert? Well, I actually score 100% introvert on the Myers-Briggs personality test haha. But I absolutely hate having social obligations. Social settings usually stress me out. Whenever I do go out it’s with a small group, and I need a while to ‘recover’ by myself after. I would much rather stay home than go anywhere. 

Favourite activities? Reading, Internet, just hanging out with my FI, walks, etc. 

Relationship status? Engaged! Been with my man since 7th grade. 

Anything that seems to trigger your introvertism? I have a lot of ‘one-on-one’ friends, so I’m asked to hang out multiple times a week. I try to be a good friend so I almost never say no, but I end up dreading going out on most days. I usually enjoy myself when I’m out! But the days leading up to it I stress. I know, it doesn’t make sense. 

If you were a superhero, what would your name/super power be? I would love to be ready in the morning by snapping my fingers! I hattttte getting ready haha. 

Who in your life is worst at understanding your introvertism? I guess some of my friends. I have a group of friends I rarely see anymore because they like to party very often, and I don’t like that scene. 

Who in your life accepts and understands your introvertism the most? My FI for sure. Also 2 of my best friends are similar to me so they get it 🙂 

If you could tell an extrovert anything about what it’s like to be introverted? It’s not personal, and I feel bad about it! I wish that I enjoyed going out more. I just don’t. It’s really overwhelming sometimes. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I just took a personality test as I wasn’t sure. I am more introvert. I got ISFP. 

My username is Soon2bd-cbee because I’m not yet married to Mr. D-C & I like the bee on the end because of weddingbee. 

I’m not a strong introvert but I value alone time, get freaked out by new people & would very happily sit at home in my pj’s watching a film instead of partying with tons of people. 

I’m engaged & getting married in April. 

I don’t want to be a superhero. That’s Thor’s job! 😉 

My mum & FI understand & accept me the most. 

Just love me & let me be. 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@LoggerHead91207:  

Here’s my thing about this: I am a super-introvert but what I want to shout from the rooftops? 

I AM NOT SHY OR ANTISOCIAL OR MISANTHROPIC.

I love people, I love meeting new people, and hanging out with the ones I already like, and there’s nothing better than a good party…

…for about a couple hours. 

Social interactions are like bowling, I’m terrible at them (so awkward) but enjoy them to pieces anyway.

The definition of introvert/extrovert is really just where you get your energy – if you get your energy from social situations, you’re an extrovert, whereas if you get your energy from alone time, you’re an introvert. 

I adore my alone time – in fact I can sometimes get picky about who I go out with and when because it has to be better than the already excellent time I spend with myself – and I need it to survive, and after a few hours of socializing, I am exhausted and aching for it. I scored in the 80’s on introversion.

I just hate the myth that all introverts are tight-lipped, shoegazing wallflowers.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@LoggerHead91207:  Neat little questionnaire! I’ll play:

What’s my username?

 

Musical-lady. I’m a musician, have been playing flute for 11 years and guitar for 9. I want to be a music teacher. All of that explains the name, lol.

 

How do I know I’m an Introvert?

 

I’m generally uncomfortable with people that I don’t know too well. Once I get to know someone, I’m fine.

 

Favorite Activities?

 

Playing instruments, listening to music, reading, playing video or computer games, watching movies, TV, Internet, camping, hiking, picnics.

 

Relationship Status?

 

Engaged since May.

 

Anything that seems to trigger your Introversion?

 

Big parties, being in large groups where I don’t know a lot of people, new situations like job interviews, being put in the spotlight for something unexpectedly.

 

If you were secretly a Superhero, what would be your name and superpower?

 

I don’t know what my name would be, but I’d really like to have the same powers as Mary Poppins. I know she’s not a superhero or anything, but being able to snap your fingers and have your instantly back in order seems amazing.

 

Who, in your personal life, is the worst at understanding and accepting your Introversion?

 

My mom does not understand. She scored 100% on the extrovert part of the Myers-Briggs test! When I was a kid, she used to force me to make friends. I was quite content with the few good friends I had in school.

 

Who, in your personal life, understands and accepts your Introversion the most?

My FH for sure! He’s an introvert as well, although he is quite charismatic and charming. Neither of us really like large social gatherings and we can sit in a room for hours without saying a word to each other – just doing our own thing and minding our own business.

If you could tell an Extrovert anything about what it’s like to be Introverted, what would you say?

 

I’m not antisocial, I don’t hate people… things like that.

Post # 16
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577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@LoggerHead91207:  Great thread! 

Those who know your Myers-Briggs type, you should post that as well!

What’s my username?

Caritas, which means unconditional love “charity” in Greek. Taken from the bible, but I am not a Christian, in fact I’m an atheist. But unconditional love is something I strive for in my marriage.

How do I know I’m an Introvert?

My Myers-Briggs type is INTP. I hate hate HATE making small talk. I also hate parties (including my own wedding).

Favorite Activities?

Reading, writing, classical music, hiking, kayaking, talking about time travel, spending time with my husband and baby.

Relationship Status?

Married for a year and a half.

Anything that seems to trigger your Introversion?

Having any kind of attention on me; I prefer to be an observer rather than being observed for any reason. And having to make small talk with anyone for any length of time.

If you were secretly a Superhero, what would be your name and superpower?

Being invisible, so I could observe without being pressured to participate.

Who, in your personal life, is the worst at understanding and accepting your Introversion?

Pretty much everyone in my life except for my husband and a couple of close friends. Currently, it’s the other moms in my playgroup. I don’t talk much at gatherings especially when I don’t know people well. And like I said, I hate small talk.

Who, in your personal life, understands and accepts your Introversion the most?

My husband. He is also an introvert (INTJ), are we understand each other so well. I never feel the need to retreat from him though; it doesn’t take energy to talk to him like it does with other people. We prefer to stay home and talk to each other over going out with other people. We vent to each other a lot about how much we hate being forced to socialize.

If you could tell an Extrovert anything about what it’s like to be Introverted, what would you say?

Just because I am not talking doesn’t mean I have nothing to say! Some people share every thought that goes through their heads, but I’m picky about what I share and who I share it with.

Being an introvert is just as “normal” as being an extrovert. There is nothing wrong with us, but it just so happens that American culture values extraversion over introversion, and I wish that could change!

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