Invitation addressed only to fiance??

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I know some people consider it rude to ask but in this situation I would have your FI call his cousin to ask because I think it’s strange to not invite someone’s FI.

Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I agree with MrsBeck, your FI should speak with your cousin, it may have been an oversight. 

Goodluck!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Since it’s a family member, I agree that it would be fine to call and clarify.  If it was a friend or a work collegue, I would assume it’s just your FI invited and they didn’t give him a +1.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

and I would have him clarify whether or not you are invited, NOT request that you be invited.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

SkinnyLatte17:  Did the RSVP card not have 2 places? Do you live together (I’m assuming so)? 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Well that’s awkward.

So have him call and ask if it’s not too late to RSVP as you just received the invitation this week, and if you are invited as well.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is a prime example of why brides need to be aware of etiquette/schmetiquette (to reference another thread). If this couple had followed  simple etiquette, it would have avoided placing their guest in this awkward position.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper

It is fine to call and mention that while he may not be aware, the two of you are engaged and have been living together for years. It is very rude to exclude you under those circumstances, but if they do not make it immediately clear that you are invited, in FI’s place, I would not ask, or correct them.  I just would not attend without you. 

Sounds like he was B list anyway. These people are not winning any awards for tact or courtesy. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yikes…I would definitely be offended if my fiance of 1 year, whom I have lived with for 3 years received an invite to a wedding that I wasn’t invited to.  At this point, you are no “plus 1”, you are his fiance and technically his common-law wife of 3 years!

Given the level of effort required to attend the wedding (booking flights, hotels, etc.), the fact that your fiance seems to have received a Tier 2 invite without a “plus 1”, I would RSVP that Mr. & Mrs. SkinnyLatte regretfully decline…but that’s just me.

If you think it’s worth it, ask Fiance to call, or even as his parents (I assume that it’s one of their siblings?) to check what the heck is going on.

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

julies1949:  yeah, but maybe the bride and groom intentionally left the OP out…the invite does follow etiquette in this case…address envelopes to only the people you are inviting lol

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

CurlyCue:  etiquette would dictate that this couple would have been recognized as a social unit and both of them included in the invitation.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

julies1949:  I was just having fun with that one. The OP is not a plus one…I know she is a social unit.

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