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Invitation and STD Addressing Question

posted 1 year ago in Paper

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HappyJax October 23, 2010 Chicago, IL

FMIL gave me her guest list and there are a few instances where she wants to invite a couple and their child(ren). FYI these 'children' are now in their 20s and 30s, and for a few she doesnt have their names or know if they are married, have kids etc. because she hasn't seen any of these people in about 20 years.

I'm trying to nudge her into just inviting the parents but she's not budging. If I am stuck in this situation how do I word these invites? I dont want to say "Smith Family" because I have no idea if these "children" are now married and have children of their own and an original count of 4 can turn into a count of 10. I also dont want to do the line on the RSVP - we have reserved X seats in your honor - because there are only 3 instances where this could be an issue.

I think my only option is to make her give me the children's first names by calling these people and getting them or not invite the children at all and get her to understand that.

Sorry for the question combined with a rant. I'm trying to figure out if I get the first name of the children how to write that on an invite.

Mr & Mrs. Edward Smith and Mary and David

Edward, Susan, Mary and David Smith

Thoughts?

Thanks!

1 year ago

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Jacqi February 28, 2009

I am of the opinion that if your FMIL doesn't even know their names or if these people are married or not, they should not be invited. If she insists on iviting them, then force her to find out this information as well as their mailing addresses. It would not be right to include an adult child on the parents invitation, even if they do live in the same house. Just tell her you can't invite them without the proper information.

1 year ago