Invitation blunder… now what?

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
6958 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Little_Nut88:  Oh man. That sucks! But if you hardly ever see her, it’s really not your fault. You were just trying to be thoughtful. I would call her and just say “I heard you and XX broke up. I’m so sorry! How are you doing?” Really, you don’t have to apologize for the invitation. If anything maybe I’d add “I hope getting the invitation for the two of you didn’t make it worse. I wouldn’t want to hurt you!” and let her keep the +1 to bring someone for moral support. Weddings SUCK right after a break up!

Post # 4
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Little_Nut88:  That’s not a blunder, you weren’t to know. Your mother felt awkward but I think needlessly so.

I sent an invitation to one of DH’s cousins and his wife. They had recently separated. He attended alone. No dramas.

So long as the ex-bf doesn’t think he’s invited, there’s no problem. I’d call her and apologise (and more, say sorry about the breakup) and reassure her that ex isn’t invited and won’t be there. If you’re letting other unattached guests bring a date, also tell her she’s welcome to bring a date.

If the invitation went to the bf’s house, then you’ve got to go into damage control, unfortunately. You’d probably need to phone him and say sorry, you’re not invited now, I hope you understand, etc etc

Post # 5
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d call her (or shoot her a FB message) and go “Oh my goodness! I just found out about you and ex. I’m so sorry about the invitation–bring anyone you’d like!”

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