Post # 1
Well a week after sending out my invitations, I have found out that I made a boo-boo. I sent an invitation to my cousin, and addressed it to her and her boyfriend of 3+ years, only to find out today that they broke up a few weeks ago! My mom just called to tell me that they were at her parents’ house and they mentioned it to my mom, and how it was pretty awkward.
Bees, I feel awful! I have only seen this cousin a handful of times in the past 5 years but she is a great person and I feel just terrible to have made her feel very uncomfortable I’m sure. I want to make amends any way I can, but how? Should I email or call her, or should I just leave it alone and not make things more awkward.
Post # 3
@Little_Nut88: Oh man. That sucks! But if you hardly ever see her, it’s really not your fault. You were just trying to be thoughtful. I would call her and just say “I heard you and XX broke up. I’m so sorry! How are you doing?” Really, you don’t have to apologize for the invitation. If anything maybe I’d add “I hope getting the invitation for the two of you didn’t make it worse. I wouldn’t want to hurt you!” and let her keep the +1 to bring someone for moral support. Weddings SUCK right after a break up!
Post # 4
@Little_Nut88: That’s not a blunder, you weren’t to know. Your mother felt awkward but I think needlessly so.
I sent an invitation to one of DH’s cousins and his wife. They had recently separated. He attended alone. No dramas.
So long as the ex-bf doesn’t think he’s invited, there’s no problem. I’d call her and apologise (and more, say sorry about the breakup) and reassure her that ex isn’t invited and won’t be there. If you’re letting other unattached guests bring a date, also tell her she’s welcome to bring a date.
If the invitation went to the bf’s house, then you’ve got to go into damage control, unfortunately. You’d probably need to phone him and say sorry, you’re not invited now, I hope you understand, etc etc
Post # 5
I’d call her (or shoot her a FB message) and go “Oh my goodness! I just found out about you and ex. I’m so sorry about the invitation–bring anyone you’d like!”
Post # 6
Thanks all for the advice! I think I will send her an email and just let her know what I’m thinking of her after the breakup, and to let her know she is welcome to bring anyone she wants as a +1.