Post # 1
Apprently my black and white invitation to go with my black and white wedding offends my Future Mother-In-Law. She has decided that black is too dark and an inappropriate colour choice.
Thank goodness they’re not paying for anything so I get to make these decisions without her input! I’m not looking forward to seeing her on the wedding day.
It’s times like this that I’m glad he doesn’t like her much more than I do!
Post # 3
Lol. She sounds like a gem!
I’m sure they are gorgeous, black and white always is!
Post # 4
Black is classy and elegant. Much like the opposite of her from the way she sounds. Who in their right mind would be offended by a black and white color scheme???
Post # 5
I’m not here to defend your FMIL; however, she probably feels this way, because Miss Manners and some other traditional wedding-etiquette experts have long advised that black is an inappropriate color for a woman to even wear to a wedding, let alone a color in which to dress one’s bridesmaids. Your Future Mother-In-Law may be someone who adheres to this tradition, and that may explain her strong feelings about this.
I know that, tradition notwithstanding, black and white wedding themes, and bridesmaids dressed in black, have been very popular for a couple of decades now, so it’s likely that many younger brides have never even heard that this was an issue. Basically, few know, and fewer care.
Since you have chosen this theme, and since your in-laws are not hosting your wedding, your Future Mother-In-Law should not put her desire to adhere to this traditional etiquette above her ability to enjoy your wedding celebration. I hope she is able to put her concerns about this aside, since no one is going to be looking at her as not “knowing” this “rule,” since she is not the one hosting the wedding. I hope she is able to focus on the happiness of her son and his new bride, while wearing a color that she finds appropriate and that you find acceptable, while not concerning herself with the color of your bridal party’s attire or your invitations.
Post # 6
She would have HATED mine!! My invites were white text on black background!!! I love black with weddings.
Post # 7
My mother was shocked that my wedding invitations were any thing other than black engraving on white or cream crane cardstock
Traditionally formal wedding invitations do not have color – mine are pink and gray letterpress 🙂
You enjoy your black and white wedding and know that you will not please everybody 🙂
Post # 8
Ummm what? Haha is she actually offended by the color choice or just doesnt think it’s a good choice? Either choice is CRAYYZAYYY. Black and white is VERY classy 🙂
Post # 9
Mine visited this weekend and informed me my venue (deep red) does not match my dress (pale blush). It happens. Just ignore her 🙂
Post # 10
@Brielle: I had considered that, but she’s honestly just being critical. That’s why I put this in family and not paper. She’ll hate the whole wedding that I’m putting together, guaranteed.
@MissTX: I don’t think she’s actually offended, just being dramatic. That’s how she is. I’m not surprised she doesn’t like them. She’s also upset that the printing on the envelopes smudged a bit in the mail – because I can obviously control what the post office does with them.
Thanks girls. She’s just being catty and I had to vent.
Post # 11
Black and white is so elegant. Just ignore her if she’s not paying. I’m sure she’ll get over it when she realizes NOBODY else is offended.
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
@unixfairy: Exactly what I was going to say (and will say again anyway to assure the OP). Black and white is considered the most formal color combination for an invitation, no matter the color scheme of the wedding. Whether people should wear black is a different matter.
Post # 13
My mother kindly informed me tonight that black was an inapporopriate color for wedding shoes for my maids and definitely out of the question for me. I don’t see it, especially if it is a formal wedding and ours is taking place in the evening.
Post # 14
I’d love to see my Future Mother-In-Law expression when she sees our all black invites with white lettering. Bring out the smelling salts!
Post # 15
Black and white sounds modern and elegant, I love it. Might not be to her taste, but its not her wedding!
Like you said, you’re the one paying for it, so you keep doing whatever you want. 🙂