Post # 1
This might end up being long…
So first of all, my aunt offered to make our invitations for us as a gift. She’s really into card making, scrapbooking, etc…
We gave her the wording we wanted to use and she would make them.
NOW here’s the thing.
My parents are giving us a certain amount of money for the wedding. We’ll say the amount is between $5000 and $7000 😉
FI’s parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner and part of the alcohol. We’re doing a toonie bar and then they’ll pick up the rest of the tab at the end of the night.
On our invitations, we decided to use “Together with their parents, Sunshine and Mr Sunshine…”. Instead of “Mr. Jane and Mike Joes and Mr Karen and Doug Smith invite you”
Now apparently my aunt was talking to my mom and mom mentioned something that she hopes we’re putting their names on the invitations because they’re paying for some of the wedding. We’re not showing anyone the invitations until their done.
My question to you bees… was it wrong of us to only put “Together with their parents” even tho their not paying for the WHOLE wedding? I have a feeling my mom is going to be upset once she see the invitations….
Post # 3
Here is the actual wording (minus some personal info)
Together with their parents,
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage
on Saturday, the Seventeenth of July
Two Thousand Ten
at One o’clock in the afternoon
23 Red Boulevard Northeast
Reception to follow at 5:00 pm
Post # 4
It might be worthwhile to talk to your mom about this, just to avoid any hurt feelings down the road. Is there any reason why you didn’t want their names on it? You could always explain that to her.
Post # 5
We feel that “we’re” inviting the guests not our parents. That’s the biggest thing. And we’re also paying for about half. Maybe a bit less than half but the amount my parents are giving us will pay for the venue, dj, and photographer. We might have a bit left over but not 100% sure on that yet…
Post # 7
I also agree that you should talk to your mom. If your parents are paying for more than 50% of the wedding and they want their names on the invitations, then I think their names should be on the invitations. I know it feels like you are inviting the guests, but would you really be able to invite all of those guests without your parents’ monetary contributions?
Post # 8
My mom and step-dad and FI’s dad and step-mom are helping pay for the wedding. In your case, I would say that using both sets of names on the invite would be totally fine. I can’t becaue first of all, my parents are obviously divorced, and my mom and step-dad aren’t actually married, they’ve just been together for ALONG time. (my mom kept my dad’s last name after they were divorced, how weird would that look!) My dad and I don’t really have a relationsship, and he is single. My FI’s dad and step mom are actually married, so that wouldn’t be a problem, but my FMIL (who was never married to FI’s dad) and her fiance are not married yet, so it would look weird as well. Here’s how it would look if I did type it all out!
Ms. T. Truax & Mr. R Hughes,
Mr. E. Truax
Ms. M. Wounaris & Mr. R. Yuricic
Mr. R. Bailey & Mrs. R. Bailey
Crazy Right!! I say do it if you can. In my case this is not possible!! Ha
Post # 9
We have a similar situation where everyone is paying for seomthing. we are doing:
together with their parents
mr and mrs brides parents
mr and mrs grooms parents
request the honour of your presance
at the marraige of their children
blah blah blah
we feel that having both parents listed before us, it indicates that everyone is helping.