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start calling, emailing, facebooking, smoke signalling.
Don't waste another penny or another iota of time on invitations.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's certainly an unfortunate situation :(
@cdub77: Oh goodness, that's terrible! I really hope they turn up somewhere very soon! This was my worst nightmare after I posted mine! I even posted them out over 4 different days so they were all spread out in case something did happen. If all mine went missing I would've said "screw it" and sent everyone an email because I was so over making my invites once they were all done!
I was lucky, I had a few overseas ones which I sent with only had a single local postage stamp on them, but even they arrived and no one was charged the extra postage.
I really am sorry this has happened and sorry I have no useful advise. Goodluck!
Maybe something's holding them up at the post office and they'll be delivered in the next day or two? You never know...
I'm so sorry this is happening to you!!
Before you panic, there'S always other ways to get information to people. But first, how do you know all are missing? Have you really contacted 59 recipients? In that case, you can just deliver the info over the phone and when they get the invites it will not be too late for them to come. At least with packages, I think they need to be more than 2 weeks to be considered missing so you still have some time. My first thought is that they are sittign in a bucket somewhere sicne you hand canceled them. Hand canceling diverts them fromt he normal through the machine process all mail goes through and they need to thus be hand sorted if I understand correctly. This is why some hand cancelled invites end up with an additional machine cancel. So, if you really know no one has got them after 2 weeks, I would calmly go back to the post office at which you mailed them and explain the situation being sure to note that they were hand canceled. I would nicely ask if they could check around the building to be sure they went out and see if they can help. If no one gets them and they are not turning up, I would do email/phone calls to explain to guests what happened and confirm RSVPs. Did you do a STD? If so, then I don't think it's super important to redo formal invites as the guests all have a physical reminder of the date, you just need to communicate details and get RSVPs. Yes, this is far from ideal but it's really not worth any more stress. (I know that's easier said than done but some times we need to hear it).
@cdub77: How would you know if people got their invites if its only been 6 days since you mailed them. Isn't there an RSVP waiting period? Am I missing something?
I would not panic at this point... It's only been a few days. Sometimes the mail takes 1 day, sometimes it takes 10. Just wait and I wouldn't worry. I would only start to worry if in like 3 weeks you still haven't heard anything.
My invitations went out 2 weeks ago and my MOTHER hasn't gotten hers yet
We sent 3 invitations to her house (hers, my sisters & some friends who have recently moved) and USPS has delivered 1 of the 3.
If the post office has to hand sort them, it will take longer (and since you hand-canceled them, I assume the machine won't sort them). I also wouldn't panic yet. If they haven't arrived in another week, then you can start calling everyone. :) Have you asked your close friends and family if they've received anything?
How do you know they are all lost? Some may be delayed and Some people take a while to even open their mail. One of my friends said my invite sat on her desk for a week before she remembered to open it. Also some people may receive it but wont call right away to let you know. Its not possible for ALL 59 invites to be lost. When I mailed mine some people didnt get their until about a week and a half later
Thanks everyone! Like some of you suggested, they are just now starting to show up over a week after mailing them. Strangely enough, they arrived in England 3 days before any showed up one town over. I wish I had realized they would take so long so I could have sent them out sooner. Our STDs arrived locally the day after I mailed them so I thought the invites would be the same way. Anyway, thanks for the replies! I can now breathe a big sigh of relief and stop worrying about them.
Yay Im happy they are starting to reach their destinations.
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I need help and encouragement. I sent 60 of my beautiful hand-canceled invitations from the post office last Thursday (now 6 days ago) and only ONE has arrived to its recipient. I live in Northern California and the only person who got theirs lives in LA. Local mail usually takes a day or two at the most to arrive. None of the local ones have been received and none have been returned back to me. Before mailing them, I went to three different post offices to make sure that I was putting the right postage amount on. The post office that I ended up sending them from told me to use a 64 cent stamp on two separate occasions. I did use the Martha Stewart wraparound label template but most bees said they didn't have any problems with it. I went to talk to the post office and they said there shouldn't be any problems - the postage was right and the labels should be okay except for maybe 1 out of 60. CLEARLY there is a problem since they are comletely missing.
The big mystery now is where in the world are my invitations? Did this happen to anyone else? What would you do? Does anyone know the ins and outs of USPS and have any advice?
It is now 7 weeks till my wedding. It is going to cost me hundreds of dollars and at least another week to reprint everything. I am crushed.