Post # 1
So my mother in law to be decided that she wanted to help with the shower, I thought it would be great until I found out she wanted to do the invites, usually that would not be a big deal but she wants to scrapbook them and she would be spending a lot of money that she would want me to give her. First of all I am a graphic designer so I wanted to design them my self and second i can make them for free at work. The problem is my Fiance told his mom that she could do them… How do I tell her I want to make my own with out looking like I don’t want to include her? Also she wants to do the wedding invites too!
Post # 3
I would perhaps mention that how it would save you, her, or both of you a lot of $$$ if you design them and get them done for free! She can’t argue with free! lol
I think when you are taking something away from someone, it really helps to lesson their negative reaction if you have a replacement. So, explain that you are going to be making a great decision to save $$$, but you could really use her help on ______. Fill in the blank with whatever else she can help with that’s in her area of expertise.
Also, perhaps she can help with the designing, as in you can show her things and ask if she has any ideas to compliment what you’re presenting. That or perhaps she can do some of the little finishing embellishments after they are printed.
Post # 4
Just find something else that she can do and maybe let her help with the design idea?
Post # 5
I don’t think that you should be making your own invitations for your shower. Wedding would be ok, but you really aren’t supposed to be doing any of the hosting duties for your own shower.
I wouldn’t give her any money for shower hosting. If she is hosting the event then she is responsible for hosting an event she can afford. If that means she calls people to invite them, then so be it, or go to the dollar store and get invites. If she chooses to do something more elaborate, then she is responsible for paying for that choice.
Post # 6
@andielovesj: Good point!
If she is hosting the shower then no you shouldn’t be giving her money for it then! Do you know for a fact that she wants you to help pay?
Post # 7
she does not seem to be paying for anything and my mom is hosting it but she said this is her way of “helping” but she never said anything about money to me.