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not rude.. we are having guest list a and guest list b/// guest list be will get invites proably april or may and hope they respond quicky/. guest list a has been sent the invites today/// guest a consist of family on both sides and friends.. the b list will be coworkers from hubby to be's job..church members
not rude.. we are having guest list a and guest list b/// guest list be will get invites proably april or may and hope they respond quicky/. guest list a has been sent the invites today/// guest a consist of family on both sides and friends.. the b list will be coworkers from hubby to be's job..church members
not rude.. we are having guest list a and guest list b/// guest list be will get invites proably april or may and hope they respond quicky/. guest list a has been sent the invites today/// guest a consist of family on both sides and friends.. the b list will be coworkers from hubby to be's job..church members
Thanks!! I definitely don't want people to think they weren't thought of first but we are limited our guest list quite a bit based on budget so it's really not that they weren't thought of--it's more that I have a huge family that expects an invite so it didn't leave much room for friends.
I don't think that is rude, I think that that prepared, sensible planning!! The last thing you want is a venue capacity of 75 and 100 people saying they would love to attend. It would be a disaster if you had to start uninviting people closer to the date! eeek!
Do not do a lists and b lists. People will know they were second-tier guest choices. Do not invite more people than your venue can accommodate. Yes, you will get 'no' RSVPs, but what if peoples' plans change and they call you a week before saying they can come after all? Will you tell them no?
My thoughts are that we wouldn't divide the first list and the second list by who we like more, rather than who is a family member and none of the people on the family member list would talk to the ones on the friends list so I don't think anyone would find out and feel they were second pick...because they weren't. They just happened to not be blood related. IF the issue came up, my thoughts were that I would simply say we wanted to give our family invitations first, as a courtesy to them or something like that.
My venue will need a final head count at least 2 weeks prior to the wedding, so if they called me a week before the wedding and said they could make it, they wouldn't actually be able to come anyway because I would have already turned in my headcount.
My venue can accomodate up to 150 people I believe, so if more than 75 did come, it would affect catering more than anything, not actual seating. I definitely wouldn't invite more people than the place could hold!!
I haven't decided if I am going to do two separate lists. It was just a thought. Thanks for your input everyone!!
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We are planning on having 75 guests for our wedding. I am scared to invite over that many incase over that many people show up because that will add at least $20 per person that shows up and I'm not sure if the venue will be too thrilled with us.
However, some family I know would appreciate being thought of, even though there is a very little chance of them coming to the wedding.
Would it be horrible to send out one group of invitations to family and ask them to RSVP by a certain time and THEN invite friends (there are quite a few I'd like there that I cut due to the 75 limit) a couple of weeks later?