Post # 1
So here’s the question…
If someone already told you that they can’t make it to your wedding, would you still send them an invitation?
If your friend’s significant other already told you that they can’t make it, would you still put their name on the invite…. just out of courtesy?
Post # 4
I think it is proper etiquette, but seems pointless! 🙁
I’m sure it is just ‘the thought’ and ‘the courtesy’
Post # 5
I say no. It seems pointless to waste an invitation.
Post # 6
It is proper etiquette, and you never know, whatever they had planned may fall through and they end up coming anyway! Besides, how would you feel in their shoes? What if one of your FI’s friends was getting married, but you had to work and couldn’t come. Wouldn’t you feel a little hurt if your name wasn’t included on the invite?
Post # 7
Yes, you should definitely still send them an invitation to make sure that they know that you wanted to include them! Plus, things change and they might be able to come. Also, they might want to send you a gift and probably won’t do so if you don’t actually invite them.
Post # 8
yes, you’re still supposed to invite them even if they’ve already told you no.
Post # 9
It’s up to you but I would probably send them an invite because the invitation to attend is still open and anything is possible before your wedding day and there may be something come up that allows them to attend. If someone really wants to attend, they will do whatever it takes to get there. That line of thinking that someone says a year or two ahead that they absolutely cannot make it doesn’t make sense to me unless you have a job that requires you to be at work on a specific day (most don’t), since no one can see that far into the future and say that something absolutely is not possible.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel
I don’t know what the “proper” etiquette is, but I’m planning on sending invites to those who already let me know they can’t attend, just so they know I would have loved to have them there! I will probably include a note expressing as much, so they don’t think I’m asking for a gift.
Post # 11
Yes! I would…I have a few guests who already told us they wont be able to make it, but I planned on sending them an invite anyway. I also know a lot of my extended family wont be attending (they didn’t come to my brothers either), but I feel like I have to send them an invitation anyway because they are family. Ijust feel it’s the “right” thing to do in both cases
Post # 12
Yes and yes. It’s the least you can do for the people you’d like at your wedding whether they can attend or not. I don’t consider that as a waste; it’s a kind and considerate gesture.
Post # 13
Yep, I did! My family in Florida can’t make the wedding but I still sent them an invite! And like somebody mentioned, they may change their plans and be able to come.
Post # 14
I would send an invite. I think its a nice way to include them and express your desire to have them involved in your special day – that sentiment is important regardless of whether they’ll be able to come or not.
Think about it this way too…its a reminder to them that you are getting married, so maybe they’ll still buy you a wedding gift! (Not to be totally selfish or anything, but hey, just trying to point out the potential positives on sending a “wasted” invitation!)
Post # 15
Yeah, I’m still doing it.
Post # 16
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I definitely would. You never know if their plans may suddenly change and they can come – you wouldn’t want them to think they weren’t invited! Plus, it’s a nice gesture just to let them know that you wish they could be there!