Post # 1
So I have a complicated situation. My friends (a couple) recently separated. I just found out when asking for their address. The wife responded and said they are still amicable and will likely attend our wedding together. She also said to mail their invitations to the same address. How should I address their invite? Should I still use Mr. & Mrs. John Smith? Or Mr. John Smith & Ms. Jane Smith? She is still using his last name. Thanks!
The Future Mrs. Medeiros
Post # 3
I would address normally, Mr. and Mrs. If it is a new separation, they may not be very public about it and addressing them differently might draw questions. If you can, I would ask her her preference.
Post # 4
I’m not certain what proper etiquette dictates in this situation, so this is just my personal opinion. If I had recently separated from my husband, I would not want to be referred to as Mrs. John Smith. I would prefer Mr. John Smith & Ms. Jane Smith or the names on separate lines like so:
Mr. John Smith
Ms. Jane Smith
That’s how I plan to address my invitation to my aunt and uncle who are divorced but still live in the same household.
Post # 5
Anyone else? Since we have a tie, I would love some more input.
Post # 6
I personally would address them together until a divorce was finalized.
Plus, since she already told you to send it together to their address & she’s still using the name, I’d just keep it the traditional Mr. & Mrs. John Smith
Post # 7
Post # 8
You should definitely just ask.
Post # 9
@thetestoftimeweddings: I would address the invites similar to 2 adult children living at home. Each with their own invite and individual name.
Since they have told you that they are no longer a social unit, I think it is potentially be offensive to invite them together, when they have specifically told you they are not together. The fact that they are cordial to one another doesn’t change this.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2010 - The Atlantic Beach Club
I don’t know the actual ettiquette, but because they are planning to attend together and she asked you to send it to the same address, I’d address it as Mr. and Mrs. or just ask?
Post # 11
I would do John Smith & Ms. Jane Smith to be safe. Even if they were still ‘together’ it wouldn’t be too weird. Have you asked if they are going to want to sit at the same table? Ee.