(Closed) Invitation Etiquette

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would address normally, Mr. and Mrs. If it is a new separation, they may not be very public about it and addressing them differently might draw questions. If you can, I would ask her her preference.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m not certain what proper etiquette dictates in this situation, so this is just my personal opinion. If I had recently separated from my husband, I would not want to be referred to as Mrs. John Smith. I would prefer Mr. John Smith & Ms. Jane Smith or the names on separate lines like so:

Mr. John Smith

Ms. Jane Smith

That’s how I plan to address my invitation to my aunt and uncle who are divorced but still live in the same household.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I personally would address them together until a divorce was finalized.

Plus, since she already told you to send it together to their address & she’s still using the name, I’d just keep it the traditional Mr. & Mrs. John Smith

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You should definitely just ask.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@thetestoftimeweddings: I would address the invites similar to 2 adult children living at home.  Each with their own invite and individual name.

Since they have told you that they are no longer a social unit, I think it is potentially be offensive to invite them together, when they have specifically told you they are not together.  The fact that they are cordial to one another doesn’t change this.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - The Atlantic Beach Club

I don’t know the actual ettiquette, but because they are planning to attend together and she asked you to send it to the same address, I’d address it as Mr. and Mrs. or just ask?

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would do John Smith & Ms. Jane Smith to be safe. Even if they were still ‘together’ it wouldn’t be too weird. Have you asked if they are going to want to sit at the same table? Ee.

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