Post # 1
I’m working on my invitations, and should have them all mailed/delivered by the end of the week. However, I have hit a snag.
I have some relatives in Canada who have all told me (or my mom) that they cannot attend. It’s my mom’s aunt, her two daughter’s, and each one’s SO. It makes 6 people total. We’re not close at all, and I’ve only seen them twice in my life. We don’t talk beyond a random facebook comment or message here and there.
The daughters don’t live with their mother or each other. I have the addresses for my mother’s aunt and one of her daughters. I didn’t do save the dates, but had emailed both daughters (they’re close to my age), which is how I know they’re not coming. I told them I would send a formal invitation regardless in case plans change and asked for their addresses. Only one sent me hers.
I could probably get the address from my mom’s aunt, but every time my mom or I talk to her it’s a lot of drama. She actually suggested we move the wedding date to be more convenient.
I have an early August RSVP date. I feel weird sending 2 invitations to family members, but neglecting the third. Would it be okay to do that? I don’t want to hold up the whole thing because one of my relatives didn’t email me her address.
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I wouldn’t worry about it. You already reached out to get the addresses and already know they’re not coming. Send to those you know and if they come back at you for not receiving an invitation, just tell them that you tried to get them. They sound like more trouble than they’re worth, lol.
Post # 4
@futurefishy: i wouldn’t worry about it. you did the best you could.
FI’s uncle never got a STD and probably won’t get an invitation either.
i asked FI numerous times for his uncle’s address. oh well…
Post # 5
Ask her sister for her address if you aren’t comfortable. either that, or send the invitation to her mother’s address.
Post # 6
I would send her invitation to her mother’s.
Post # 7
One of our guests is travelling the world right now, so I’m sending her invitation to her parents (she doesn’t live with them). But I know they’ll pass along.
Post # 8
@futurefishy: Either send it ot the mother’s address or just ignore it all together, you asked they didn’t answer, their problem not yours.
It sounds like oyu lucked out they’re not coming to the wedding, they’d probably complain about everything….
Post # 9
@Elky: I could devote a whole post to the complaining I’ve heard from them 🙂
I was thinking about just sending it to her mom, but I know they live about an hour apart. I have no idea how often they see each other, but if I don’t hear back this week I guess that’s what I’ll do. I’m just anticipating the complaints I’ll hear of why wasn’t X daughter invited and the rest of us were.
Post # 10
@futurefishy: Yeah thats why its best to just send it to the mom, you’ll get the complaint of “why wasn’t it sent directly to her” but you have the simple answer that an address was never provided and you still wanted to send the invite.
I think you’re being too sweet to this complaining family, I’d probably avoid sending an invite since they arleady declined 😛
Post # 11
Send it to the mother, had two cousins of the DH and asked oh so many times for addresses and did I get them? Hell no. Knew they weren’t coming, same situation, mailed them to the mothers, never got an RSVP, did my duty. Screw them.