- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
Two issues here because of this:
The way price works for where I am having the ceremony and reception at is per person attending the RECEPTION, as it includes a 5 course meal or high end buffet with carving stations, etc., open bar for 5 hours, a 1 hour cocktail hour between ceremony and reception with h’oderves, and of course the actual rental space per person. The wedding ceremony has no limit as theres no cost per person for that.
1st. Problem: The number of guests for the reception has already exceeded the maximum amount of guests due to my budget. There are some friends and extended family I WANT to share the beautiful wedding ceremony with, but, am not willing to spend several hundreds of $ on to attend the reception, and go over my budget for. Some of these friends, however, are CLOSER friends with some BMs or some of my closer friends who I will be inviting to both, and they will find out I specifically didn’t invite them to the reception. Or if not,the reception area/cocktail hour area after the wedding are a few hundred feet apart (ceremony outside, cocktail hour is outside, and you ended the ballroom from the outside door), they may just follow the rest and invite themself in!!
Is there any etiquette rules on inviting some people to just the wedding ceremony and not the reception? The invitations would just not include the RSVP card for the reception, and not have anything it in that mentions being invited to the reception? Or what should I put on my wedding website to “read your invitations carefully” or what?
2nd problem: Being that we have reached are limit, not everyone can bring a guest. I can’t pick certain people who can bring a guest and who can’t. The only thing I am thinking to write on the wedding website is that :
“We are sorry to inform you that because we have already exceeded our budget due to the amount of guests attending the reception, we politely ask that UNLESS, you are married, engaged, or the invitation specifies otherwise, you cannot bring a guest with you to the reception.”
Or something to that extend.
I know some of my friends may bring their significant other as their guests – they’ve been with a month, and then after the wedding they break up within a week. I’m sorry but I dont think it’s right for me have people at my wedding I barely know because some people felt like “not showing up alone” or whatever the reason may be, when I’m ALREADY over budget.However, they can bring a guest to the wedding ceremony! I don’t know how to do this?
Should I write that? And then for those who are cannot bring a guest put in their RSVP card already: “NUMBER OF PEOPLE ATTENDING WEDDING CEREMONY ” and then “NUMBER OF PEOPLE ATTENDING WEDDING RECEPTION 1 “?
What’s proper? Suggestions?