(Closed) Invitation etiquette question

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you send them an invite or to others instead?
    Proper etiquette dictates you HAVE to send them an invitation. : (24 votes)
    83 %
    Forget proper etiquette and invite who you want. : (3 votes)
    10 %
    Torn on this one. : (2 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    2058 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    As much as I want & would love to tell you to not send them an invite, lol – – – yes  etiquette states everyone who receives a STD also receives an Invitation……

    Post # 4
    2398 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Yep.  Whoever gets a save-the-date gets an invite.  Think of it this way, if you aren’t close anymore they are unlikely to attend.

    Post # 5
    408 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Yeah…unfortunately still send them an invite…UNLESS you absolutely know they will not come and you’ll never speak to them again…lol

    Post # 6
    7152 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I agree with everyone else. Keep your List B ready.. they might turn it down since you’re not cose anymore.

    Post # 7
    162 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Etiquette says you invite everyone you sent save the dates to.  It’s kind of rude to ask people to save the date and then not invite them.  They may turn down other invitations, arrange their plans, etc specifically to be able to save the date for your wedding. 

    Would you let them know they’re not invited?  That would probably be kind of awkward…but if you don’t, they may show up anyhow (if they have enough info) thinking the invite got lost, or may call you up asking about the invite, also thinking it’s lost…and either of those would also make for an awkward situation.


    Post # 8
    1067 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I would say that everyone that got a std should get an invite. I mean if I got a std, but didn’t receive the invite I might feel bad or awkward about it. I agree with previous posters- what if they call you thinking it got lost? Would you tell them you decided not to giver them one after all? Just hope they do not show!

    Post # 9
    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I know the feeling, but I’m still sending invites to everyone who got a save the date. It’s my own fault for being too overeager and sending out the stds too early 🙂 I think the other women are right–they probably know you aren’t as close and might decline.

    Post # 10
    7349 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I hate that- its one of the reasons i decided against save the dates- I want to reserve the option to not invite till the last minute!  Good luck!

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