Post # 1
So I’m in a sticky spot.
I finally found what I feel is the perfect invitation for us. It’s fresh, modern, and relaxed. We’re hosting our wedding ourselves with limited help from our parents, so typically I’d go with the “Together with their parents, Sarah Middle Last and Kevin Middle Last request the pleasure…” for wording.
Here’s the problem: the design we’ve chosen utilizes our first names as the main design element (leaving no logical space on the invitation for our last names). By our parents’ choice, we’re inviting some far removed guests (great aunts I met once at age 5, business associates, etc.) who may not make the connection if they receive invitations that just say “Sarah & Kevin” with no last names. My proposed solution is to recognize both sets of our parents by name and indicate that we’re all co-hosting. With this being a relatively informal invitation design, do you think that’s ok?
Together with their parents,
Ruth & Hobert LAST NAME
Marcia & Gary LAST NAME,
Sarah & Kevin
request the pleasure of your company
at the celebration of their marriage
Saturday, October ninth, two thousand and ten
four o’clock in the afternoon
The Hartley Gardens
at the University of Illinois Arboretum
1800 South Lincoln Avenue
Reception to follow
(link to invitation design: http://www.etsy.com/listing/51393166/modern-layered-wedding-invitation-with)
Post # 3
Just convo the seller and ask her if she can add it in.
Post # 4
I’m asking more from the perspective of whether it’s a breach of etiquette to word my invitation this way.
Our seller is great, and I know she’d honor any reasonable request I made! 🙂
Post # 5
I had the same situation and here is the wording I decided upon:
Because you have shared in our lives
with friendship and love, we
Together with our parents
My parent’s names
His parent’s names
request the pleasure of your company at our wedding
Sunday, the fifth of September
Two thousand ten
at half past five in the afternoon
Reception immediately following
Post # 6
I think it should be fine. I didn’t have my last name of my FI’s last name listed, but we did include both of our parents names.
Post # 7
I don’t think this is a breach of etiquette at all. Given that you are the primary hosts, it is your choice how to word the invitation. By putting it this way, it does emphasize that both parents are contributing to the wedding, but as long as you don’t mind, then it works fine.
Post # 8
I don’t think its a breach of etiquette. You need to do what you’re comfortable with. I had the same situation where I had non-traditional wording where me and my fiance were hosting and given my parents situation I didn’t want to highlight it was just my mom and no dad. I opted for Together with their families for the wording. Plus your parents can always check in with those extended relatives after you send the invitation to make sure they recieved it and at the same time checking they know who its from.
Post # 9
Haha there are a million and one ways to word your invitations, there’s definitely no standard anymore, and you can include anything you want! The only ettiquette rules I’ve heard regarding invitations is that if your wedding is in a church you have to say “request the honor of your presence” and whoever’s paying for the reception has to be the one requesting that honor – both points are debateable anyway.
In fact, our parents were in our invitation wording too, for the same logic that many of my distant relatives might not know whose granddaughter I was.
Jen & Fiance
Together with their parents<Jen’s parents><FI’s parents>
Request the honor of your presence…
Post # 10
I’m with JenBrandner – there’s no right or wrong way anymore, haha.
I think your wording is great!
Post # 11
That is basically how we are wording ours. We are splitting the cost with my parents and FI’s parents are picking up a few things here and there. I wanted to include both sets so we are using:
Together with their parents,
Mr & Mrs My Parents and Mr. and Mrs. His Parents,
invite you to join them as they become husband and wife.
Followed by all the wedding info. I found that this was the best way to incorporate everyone without insinuating who specifically is hosting.