(Closed) Invitation help! Is it ever ok to veer from standard invitation wording?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Just convo the seller and ask her if she can add it in.

Post # 5
1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I had the same situation and here is the wording I decided upon:

Because you have shared in our lives 
with friendship and love, we




Together with our parents

My parent’s names


His parent’s names

request the pleasure of your company at our wedding

Sunday, the fifth of September

Two thousand ten

at half past five in the afternoon 



City, State

Reception immediately following 

Post # 6
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think it should be fine. I didn’t have my last name of my FI’s last name listed, but we did include both of our parents names.

Post # 7
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I don’t think this is a breach of etiquette at all.  Given that you are the primary hosts, it is your choice how to word the invitation.  By putting it this way, it does emphasize that both parents are contributing to the wedding, but as long as you don’t mind, then it works fine.

Post # 8
5 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t think its a breach of etiquette.  You need to do what you’re comfortable with.  I had the same situation where I had non-traditional wording where me and my fiance were hosting and given my parents situation I didn’t want to highlight it was just my mom and no dad.  I opted for Together with their families for the wording.  Plus your parents can always check in with those extended relatives after you send the invitation to make sure they recieved it and at the same time checking they know who its from. 

Post # 9
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Haha there are a million and one ways to word your invitations, there’s definitely no standard anymore, and you can include anything you want!  The only ettiquette rules I’ve heard regarding invitations is that if your wedding is in a church you have to say “request the honor of your presence” and whoever’s paying for the reception has to be the one requesting that honor – both points are debateable anyway.

In fact, our parents were in our invitation wording too, for the same logic that many of my distant relatives might not know whose granddaughter I was.

Jen & Fiance

Together with their parents<Jen’s parents><FI’s parents>

Request the honor of your presence…

Post # 10
47 posts

I’m with JenBrandner – there’s no right or wrong way anymore, haha.

I think your wording is great!

Post # 11
10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

That is basically how we are wording ours. We are splitting the cost with my parents and FI’s parents are picking up a few things here and there. I wanted to include both sets so we are using:

Together with their parents,

Mr & Mrs My Parents and Mr. and Mrs. His Parents, 




invite you to join them as they become husband and wife. 

Followed by all the wedding info. I found that this was the best way to incorporate everyone without insinuating who specifically is hosting. 

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