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I just wanted to share this because it's been in the back of my mind.  First, my fiance's cousin is getting married in a week or two.  We found out a couple of weeks ago that his parents and his brother and his wife had received invitations.  We had not.  We found that strange since everyone celebrates holidays together and yes, slightly hurtful.  But it happens and we'd have trouble coming anyway since I work night shifts (so I'd be exhausted) and he works until three or four Fridays and it's a Friday evening wedding two or three hours from where we live.  Well when his parents went to a birthday party for one of his other cousins they decided to go in and ask why we weren't invited because it's wrong (we did not ask them to and even said just don't say anything, it's not that big of a deal).  Luckily his brother got to his cousin first to explain this and told his parents he took care of asking.  I was just sharing this because while I do feel like it was weird we didn't get an invite, I also don't like it when people ask us why they aren't invited/if they are invited to our wedding so I hate to know she would have thought we were doing that too (his brother did explain we probably couldn't come and we weren't asking necessarily to be invited).

She said it got lost in the mail by the way.  Either way, it hurt a little but it didn't really upset us especially knowing we couldn't come (she didn't know this by the way).  I wouldn't mind simply asking her parents but my fiance's parents were going to this get together and were more or less going to ask when there was room full of people which bothers me (he has no tact with things like this, it's happened before, now with us but with other things).

It's possible but he's always been the "outcast" in his family if there is one.  We think differently and don't hide it like his brother does and we're not the traditional get married, have a kid right away and go to church people like his family is (which is fine, just not us and they are not big fans of that and it's obvious sometimes with treating people differently).  I think that's why my fiance thinks it was a way to not invite us but not be upfront about it.  I think it is possible though.  I just hate that his parents were going to go in there asking about it and making people feel bad.

She also said Sunday she was going to send a new one because she felt bad and there still is nothing here (it takes about a day for mail to get from here to there or there to here).