Post # 1
Ugh I just realized that I had the wrong spelling of my cousin’s girlfriend’s last name, as given to me by my mom through my great aunt. I have already gotten all the invitations addressed by my calligrapher and picked them up from her. Is it worth going to the trouble of getting her to do a new inner envelope? We spelled it Shermer and it should have been Schermer. Never met the girl, but I don’t want to offend my cousin or anything. Thanks for your help!
Post # 3
Honestly, I wouldn’t bother going through the trouble of having it changed. It is close enough, it’s only missing the C.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
It’s worth it to get it fixed.
At the VERY least, fix it by hand. It’s important to let your cousin know that you realized your mistake. As someone with a hard-to-spell first name, I know I’d appreciate it, even if the envelope wasn’t perfect-looking.
Post # 5
If it was me, I would call my cousin and just explain that it was a mistake but that you DO know the proper spelling. I can’t imagine it being a huge deal.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
Yeah, I don’t think anyoe will freak out or anything, but I still do think it’s important to somehow correct it, either on the paper or (as RIBride suggested), by placing a phone call at least.
Post # 7
Yeah, I’d see if I could squeeze the ‘c’ in. My name is Catherine, and if I got an invitation addressed to Katherine, I’d be kind of irratated. I wouldn’t freak out or anything, but to me it would kind of seem like the bride and groom didn’t care enough to spell my name right.
Post # 8
I agree that you should make some kind of gesture, either by correcting the mistake by hand or calling her to let her know. Some people don’t care much about misspellings like that, but other people might take offense and since you want to be cautious it’s best to err on the side of doing something to let her know that it was an oops.
Post # 9
I’d vote for calling her, (or perhaps just putting in her invitation a sweet note??) I don’t think I would correct it on paper. That also doesn’t look good. Maybe it’s just me, but a "c" squeezed in with a bic, looks just as bad as a simply mispelled word. And honestly, I would think with her last name she is quite used to the mispelling. That doesn’t make it OK. Just saying, I’d vote for calling or correcting the mistake in some other way.
Of course you could get the calligrapher to redo. There’s nothing wrong with it. But I don’t know that it’s worth it.
Post # 10
She probably has it spelled wrong all the time, and it bothers her. I would try to make some kind of effort to rememdy it. Can you squeeze the "c" in yourself, like has been suggested and then call to explain. It’s a small gesture, but nice for goodwill.
Post # 11
Thanks ladies! Based on all your comments, I decided just to go ahead and get the calligrapher to do another inner. Then I have no worries!
Post # 12
I think that is a good decision!
Post # 13
I think you did the right thing too. Then you have no concerns at all! My first name has a million ways to spell it and it always makes me sad when its spelled wrong. I don’t know why, but it almost feels like they don’t know me or don’t care.
Post # 14
I also think it was the right thing to do! It doesn’t sound like it was that much trouble. Plus, I agree with PrettyKitty, when I get something that has my name mis-spelled it always looks to me like whoever was responsible just didn’t care enough to get it right – or worse yet, messed it up on purpose (ladies, say hello to my SIL…). You’ve put a lot of trouble into your invitations, and it’s worth a little extra effort to make sure that even one guest doesn’t feel like they are somehow slighted.
Post # 15
I think you made the right choice! I have a difficult name to spell and it’s a little bit of a disappointment when mail arrives with it spelled incorrectly. The one that has upset me the most is the lady at Tiffany and Co who my fiance bought my E ring from. We’ve received a thank-you card and a Christmas card. She spelled my name two different ways on both cards. Can I hear a WOO WOO for customer service Tiffany and Co!!