Post # 1
I won’t get into it here – but are there any bees out there who HAD to invite someone to the wedding (or will have to) that you did NOT want to invite?
Again, without going too much into it (because she really riles me up) my mother told me I HAVE to invite a cousin of mine who is all about the drama and IF she even gets to our ceremony on time I’d be shocked (she was literally late to her own wedding)…
I just don’t want to at all! Anyone HAVE to invite someone they didn’t want at their wedding?
Post # 3
Oh man I think everyone on here, with the exception of those people having extremely small weddings, has AT LEAST one of these. I have, um, I don’t know – at least 20 people that I find useless but I “have to” invite. It’s the downside of my parents paying. Try to just think about the fact that you can fairly easily ignore her the day of your wedding. And have someone lock the doors before the ceremony begins if that’s an option at your ceremony location. If she can’t arrive on time then it’s her problem.
Post # 4
Yeah, I abosolutely am inviting people out of obligation who I would rather not be present at all that day. Like all the kids! I love them, but would prefer the day to be adults only. I would have to invite them even if I was paying for the wedding though, which stinks. Oh, and some of my old childhood friends who I no longer speak to’s parents! If that makes sense gramatically. It’s so strange b/c I know the ex-friends will see my STD and wedding invitation, but it’s for their parents!
Post # 5
i’d be surprised if someone didn’t have this problem. my aunt, who we’ve had many issues with for a while, didn’t come to my engagement party because she told me my uncle was working (which was a lie, and either way she could have come without him). i’m so pissed! we’re having 30 people at our ceremony, which means i get 15 seats and my fi gets 15, and i have to waste 2 on her and my uncle. i know they don’t want to be there, and i don’t want them there. it’s all obligation.
Post # 6
I agree with @artbee. I think at least someone on anyone’s guest list will fall under the obligation category.
Post # 7
🙂 YEAH – I understand everyone has this issue – it just sucks!
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
sigh, yes. i feel like it almost goes along hand in hand with a wedding. your day will be so great, though, you won’t be thinking about her at all!
Post # 9
I’m sure i’ll have one or two but we purposely are having a small wedding so that we can limit all of that. No kids, co-workers or ppl we really can’t stand 🙂
Post # 10
Yes, yes and yes!!! If it was just up to us, it would have been only our parents, his sister, our grandmothers, and some very close friends… There were a LOT of people that we didn’t really want that we HAD to invite, or else, we would’ve never heard the end of it… so we invited everybody… but we are going to the Dominican, so all the people that we do not feel close to are not showing up anyway. This was one of our main reasons for going the DW route. We’re having the small wedding of our dreams without having to explain “why” people weren’t invited – they were. 🙂
Post # 11
Yes I had to invite a few people I didn’t want to just because they had heard so much about my wedding planning and I pretty much knew that they assumed they would be invited.
I was even more mad when during my reception these people that I didn’t care about took me away from others for about 15 minutes and had awkward conversation with me. I see these people a lot, I didn’t care to see them that much on my wedding day, I would have rather spoken with family during that time whom I only see once a year if I’m lucky. Plus it was weird because in my group photo these people are right up in the front. I’m not that close to them! Why did you have to stand up in the front and push my family members to the back of the photo? Ugh!
Post # 12
Ugh! Yes…I’ve said from the start no kids. One of FMIL’s must invitees has a kid that apparently we have to invite as well. How bad will that look to let one kid in and no others?! Worst part is she’s not a certain age where it would be acceptable to say like, no children under 16 or something like that…I mentioned something to FI but he just said we have to invite her.
Post # 13
i have a guy that i work with and we are sort of friends i guess….but he completely invited himself! he asks about the wedding all the time and talks about going and i dont even want him there because hes kind of a weirdo lol.