(Closed) Invitation Question:

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you hold on to an invitation if you knew someone couldn't make it to your wedding?
    yes : (2 votes)
    15 %
    no : (10 votes)
    77 %
    that's really rude! : (0 votes)
    Why would I send an invite when I know that they cant make it? : (1 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    I’d send them an invitation anyways, and once you get enough “no’s” send out invites to your b-list as well. Unfortunately, even if you know they’re not coming, I don’t think you should not send an invite to guests who got an std.

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    18646 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Do you have enough invitations to send to them and the B list people?  If you do, I think it would be nice to send them invitations but I don’t think it is exactly necessary.  We sent the invites to everyone but we had way too many.

    Post # 5
    Member
    7976 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Send them one. It’s just polite.

    I live out of the country and have had to miss countless weddings over the last three years. But I can tell you off the top of my head who sent me invites and who didn’t, even though I’d talked to all of them ahead of time and explained that I wouldn’t be able to make it. And I’ll tell you what, I’m still friends with all of them, but those who sent me an invite anyway are a lot closer to my heart. It’s inclusive to send invites. You already know they’ll say no, so it shouldn’t affect the b-listers you want to invite.

    Also, I send gifts if I get an invite. If I don’t? No gift for you.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2397 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I agree with everyone else, you should still send them invitations, even if they said they can’t make it.  The people that said they can’t make it will RSVP “no,” at which point you could send additional invites to your B listers.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1580 posts
    Bumble bee

    You should send the invitations, even if you know they can’t come. Maybe they will send you a gift anyways (totally worth sending the invitation for). And hopefully the RSVP date is early enough that you can invite the B-listers once you get the declines.

    Post # 8
    Member
    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Trust me, send them one. FSIL caused a bit of family drama with this, and it wasn’t pretty. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    355 posts
    Helper bee

    you could always include a special note that although they’ve mentioned they won’t be able to make it that if their plans change they are still more than welcome. then when they rsvp no, send them out to your b listers 🙂

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