Post # 1
I sent out save the dates 7 months ago and now some of my guests are telling me they cant make it to the wedding. Do I still have to send them an invitation? It sounds bad but there are B-listers I’d love to invite and at least they might come. Knowing these people wont come makes me feel like I’m stupid for inviting them. What’s your opinion?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I’d send them an invitation anyways, and once you get enough “no’s” send out invites to your b-list as well. Unfortunately, even if you know they’re not coming, I don’t think you should not send an invite to guests who got an std.
Post # 4
Do you have enough invitations to send to them and the B list people? If you do, I think it would be nice to send them invitations but I don’t think it is exactly necessary. We sent the invites to everyone but we had way too many.
Post # 5
Send them one. It’s just polite.
I live out of the country and have had to miss countless weddings over the last three years. But I can tell you off the top of my head who sent me invites and who didn’t, even though I’d talked to all of them ahead of time and explained that I wouldn’t be able to make it. And I’ll tell you what, I’m still friends with all of them, but those who sent me an invite anyway are a lot closer to my heart. It’s inclusive to send invites. You already know they’ll say no, so it shouldn’t affect the b-listers you want to invite.
Also, I send gifts if I get an invite. If I don’t? No gift for you.
Post # 6
I agree with everyone else, you should still send them invitations, even if they said they can’t make it. The people that said they can’t make it will RSVP “no,” at which point you could send additional invites to your B listers.
Post # 7
You should send the invitations, even if you know they can’t come. Maybe they will send you a gift anyways (totally worth sending the invitation for). And hopefully the RSVP date is early enough that you can invite the B-listers once you get the declines.
Post # 8
Trust me, send them one. FSIL caused a bit of family drama with this, and it wasn’t pretty.
Post # 9
you could always include a special note that although they’ve mentioned they won’t be able to make it that if their plans change they are still more than welcome. then when they rsvp no, send them out to your b listers 🙂