- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
So I’m DIY-ing my invites to save some money. I’ll post how they look as soon as I have a final “look” for them completed. I have a few questions on what I’m planning on doing.
Our goal is to invite 125-130 people max. We are sending out invites to over 150 people. To try to cut down on costs, we’ve decided to only invite close friends and family and to make it an adult only party.
While we would love to invite some children, others are very ill behaved (last wedding I went to where they attended the parents let them run around and a waitress got quite upset because she was carrying hot foods/drinks and children were slamming into her almost causing her to spill it all over them. She was like, if I spill this I’m sure the parents will sue me. I can’t blame her for being upset). So I will have to do an across the board no children rule to be fair.
The second way I am considering cutting people is If a guest has a long-term Significant Other, I will add them to the invite, if not or if they tend to have “flavor-of-the-month” dates as I like to call it, I will only invite that 1 person and not put +1 or and guest to the invite. My costs are just too high ($133per plate) for me to feel justified inviting someone that doesn’t know me and probably doesn’t care to. Plus I figure it might be a great way for single and looking people to mingle and maybe meet someone new. Do you think it is awful to request singles to come alone?
How do I ask my guests beforehand if they need rooms reserved? I personally don’t love save the dates, but I’m planning to send them since some guests are out-of-state. I was thinking of adding something to the bottom like “Please visit our website for accomodation and room reservation information.” Does this sound ok? Is it proper etiquitte?
1.) My Future Maid/Matron of Honor was quite offended when I showed her my first draft of the invitation. She’s like “where’s my name on this?” I let her know that when researching wording, I kept running into sites saying to put who is paying (i.e. Parents of the Bride in this case) and if not person who is paying, traditionally the fact that the parents of the bride are giving away their daughter. I do not want hurt feelings, so I am thinking of wording my cards like this:
“Mr. & Mrs. Parents of the Bride Request the honor of your presence at the Marriage of their daughter ______ to ____________ son of Mr. & Mrs. parents of the groom Saturday, the Twenty Forth of September Two Thousand and Eleven Half Past Two in the Afternoon St. Anthony’s Catholic Church”
Do you think this is enough? Should I recognize them directly after my parents names? I didn’t think they were going to help pay for anything, but she’s like “we’re helping and I’ll be offended if we’re not on there”.
2.) We are by the ocean and I wanted to do a nautical theme. I made up direction cards that look really cute like an old map. Do I make two direction cards? One to the church and another to the reception? One direction card to the reception? Or one direction card to the church?
3.) If I want to avoid the cost of inner envelopes, can I just address the outer envelopes and place a return envelope inside for the reply card?