Post # 1
A couple questions.
1. Do I have to hand write the addresses? I don’t mind doing it but my handwriting is terrible, I think it would look much better to print them off the computer, but is that bad??
2. Do I use my return address or my parents? (They are paying for the majority of the wedding).
3. We aren’t doing inner envelopes because I can’t find a size that will fit (the main envelope is an A7) when I address them do I need to put everyone that is invited? I.E. Mr. & Mrs. John Smith & Family OR John, Jane, and Junior Smith??
Also a couple issues…My grown cousins family is currently living with his parents, do I send two invites to the same house or include them all on one?
I didn’t think this would be so difficult!!
Post # 3
1.I have the same problem, I’m printing addresses on them in light gray and going over them in a nice pen/marker
2. How did you work your invites? Whoever it says it from is who they shouldgo back to. If its from both of you, its your choice.
3. We’re putting on the reply card “We’ve reserved __ seats in your honour”
4. Unfortunately, yes. Anyone over 18 gets their own invite if you follow etiquitte.
Hope that helped!
Post # 4
1. Do I have to hand write the addresses? I don’t mind doing it but my handwriting is terrible, I think it would look much better to print them off the computer, but is that bad?? – I’m in the same boat and plan on running my envelopes through the printer with a calligraphy font.
2. Do I use my return address or my parents? (They are paying for the majority of the wedding). – Completely up to you. Where are you having the RSVP’s returned to? I would use that same address. I live with my Fiance so I had an address stamp made with our first names and address. I plan to use it on the RSVP return envelopes and on the back of the actual invites.
3. We aren’t doing inner envelopes because I can’t find a size that will fit (the main envelope is an A7) when I address them do I need to put everyone that is invited? I.E. Mr. & Mrs. John Smith & Family OR John, Jane, and Junior Smith?? – Again, me too. I plan on writing out everyone that is invited on the outside. The first line would be Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and any children would be listed below that on a line by itself – Jon, Abbie and Jody Smith, followed by the address, like normal.
Also a couple issues…My grown cousins family is currently living with his parents, do I send two invites to the same house or include them all on one? – The etiquette books say you should send two invitations. However, on this one, I’m only sending one invitation per household and will include all the names of the people invited on the outside envelope.
Post # 5
1. You could use wrap around address labels, this is what I did and they looked great and your hands won’t get cramped up!
2. Use whichever mailbox gets checked the most, if you are the type to want to check the mailbox every day for your rsvp’s, use your own address. If you would rather not have to worry about it, use your parents.
3. I went informally on names John and Jane Smith, and if they have kids invited John & Jane Smith and Family. This way you don’t have to worry about name spellings and accidentally missing a child’s name.
4. I would send an invitation to each family, even if they are at the same home. It will just make sure everyone feels included.
Hope all this helps!
Post # 6
If you want to do an inner envelope (which you certainly don’t have to) you should use a larger envelope for the outer. Some sites call this an A7.5 others call it an Outer #7; it’s 5.5″x7.5″ to accept the A7 ‘inner’.
Post # 7
1. You don’t have to hand write the addresses. You can hire a calligrapher or ask a friend with great penmanship. Or you can print them with your computer or even use labels. I’m going the labels route. My wedding won’t be uber-formal so I’m not worried about it.
2. Use whatever address you want to receive responses at!
3. I’m addressing families with kids as “The Smith Family” Another option, if you don’t have inner envelopes is to create belly bands for your invitatons and put all the names on there. Or you can specify the number of seats reserved on the RSVP cards and they’ll be able to figure out if kids are invited or not.
4. I would send one invitation to your cousin and family and one to the parents. It’s not uncommon to have to mail several invitations to the same household.
Hope this helps!
Post # 8
@MrsPinkPeony:I have a couple of the answers for you:
1: I didn’t handwrite them. I used this font and it looks SOO pretty if you make it bold. It looks like calligraphy!
2: We’re doing the return address to us, because we want the RSVPs to come to us.
3: not really sure about this one..
4: I’m personally sending one invitation to the household if they have a grown child living with them. I’ll add one more person to the RSVP card and include the child’s name on the invite envelope.
Post # 9
1. You don’t have to hand-write the addresses but strict etiquette states that you should. Fauxligraphy (using a printer in light ink and tracing over it with a felt pen) sounds like a good fit for you since you don’t like your handwriting. I’ve heard though that it can be a bit tricky… You might do better to use one of those fonts that looks like handwriting and print them out that way.
2. Use the return address of whomever is responsible for tracking the RSVPs.
3. What size is the actual invitation? The measurements would determine your inner envelope size. Otherwise, you could do a “belly band” to keep all inserts together and print the names of the people invited on the ribbon.
4. Two invitations: one for the parents and one for the cousin & his wife.
Post # 10
This is why I LOVE this site! You ladies are so helpful!
I’m going to do a practice run of printing light ink and going over with a pen 🙂
Still undecided on the return address/RSVP’s but glad to hear it really doesn’t matter.
The invites fit into a half pocket thingy so the belly band might be overkill, I’m going to look into the other envelopes suggestion, the lady at the paper store told me they didn’t make things like that, not sure why I believed her!
The multiple invites makes me laugh because I just realized one household would be getting 6 invites if I followed the 18+ rule!!!
Again Thanks so much!!!