(Closed) Invitation RSVP only to me…oops?

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We just put my name, but maybe I’m weird too…

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I really don’t think it’s THAT big of a deal.  If it’s already been printed I’d let it go, if not, I’d ask if they can change it.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I could be making this up…but I think I remember reading somewhere that “proper etiquette” (and this is probably an antiquated practice) was having the RSVP go to the bride or the bride’s mom. My FI and I have lived together for 8 years so I had the RSVP cards addressed to both of us, but my cousin got married two years ago and her RSVP was just to her…don’t worry about it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

If you live together, I think its fine to rsvp to both.  Are you worried that people are judging your pre-marital living situation. 

As an aside, you may just want to write The Happy Couple on the return address with your shared home address.  It looks cute and no one is the wiser as to any etiquette issues.

Post # 8
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1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Even though we live together, the RSVP was addressed back to just me.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I only had the RSVPs go to me.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Like belledowdy, I remember an etiquette rule saying that RSVP’s go to the bride, so it is possible that the invitation place just put your name on it.  I don’t think it really matters, though. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It is proper etiquette to have the replies go directly to the bride or her mom, even if the bride and groom live together. FI and I have been living together for almost two years, and no one even mentioned about the replies being addressed only to me.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

Our RSVP went back to my parents, but I’ve seen a good number go back just to the bride. So, I don’t think it’s all that weird. If it’s a big deal to your FI, and they haven’t already been printed, ask them if they can include him!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

the rsvps for us had both our last names. no first names. i didnt even know it was a rule LOL

Post # 14
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277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We own a home together, the RSVPs still came only to me.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ive actually been wondering about this. My parents are paying for the wedding and the invite is on their behalf… They live in Texas and we’re here in VA… who should the RSVPs go to?

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am in the process of trying to sell my condo. I don’t know what will come of it as the replies start to roll in, so I don’t want the RSVPs to be sent to my place. Should I just have them sent to my name at my FI’s place?

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