Post # 1
and my mom is upset, because they didn’t contribute to the wedding financially, so she thinks they shouldn’t be listed. His mom is making our wedding cake, and his dad is contributing money towards the flowers and paying for the rehearsal dinner (they’re divorced). FI wants them to be on the invitation to the wedding, but they’ll be listed on the rehearsal dinner invite, and all of the announcements. What do you all think? I don’t want to step on their toes, but to be fair, my mom has a point. We asked his dad if he’d contribute to the cost of the wedding (the rehearsal dinner will be small, and not cost much), but he never gave us a solid answer. What should I do?
Post # 3
We were in a similar situation where my parents contributed much more than his, and this is how we worded the invites:
Mr. and Mrs Bride’s Parents request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter, BRIDE, to GROOM, son of Mr. Groom’s Dad and Groom’s Mom.
This way, it looks like your parents paid for it while his parents get recognition for being his parents :o)
Post # 4
Oooo @2PeasinaPod, great idea!
Post # 5
Ditto @2peas…I always feel like in these situations, it’s better to be the bigger person. You don’t want to leave a bad taste in FI’s parents’ mouths or start things off on the wrong foot. And they are contributing something, even if your parents are contributing more.
Post # 6
If you put “son of” will think that they are paying for it. My inlaws didn’t contribute a dime so that is what we did and it still made me look good and showed that my parents were the ones hosting.
Post # 7
But it sounds like they have contributed?
We listed FI’s mom before we knew if she was helping out or not. I think the gesture of including her as part of one big happy family is more important than who gets credit for paying for the wedding.
Post # 8
@2PeasinaPod: Agree completely!!! That’s how we are wording ours so that his parents are included but it doesn’t look like they are paying for it.
Post # 9
Thanks @2peasinapod! I’m going to use that wording.
Post # 10
I would list them the way they want to be listed.