Post # 1
I’m sure I can find advice online elsewhere but I’m curious what other “real brides” are doing. My wedding is October 10,2014.
The vast majority of our guests are local, when should I mail out invitations? And what RSVP date should I use?
I was thinking of mailing them in July and using a sept 1, RSVP. Is that too early to send them or too much time between mailing and reply deadline?
Thanks for any advice!
Post # 2
Most bees will say that your timeline is too early, but I like it. I prefer not to stress about things and to give buffer time.
also, for our invites, it took 4-9weeks for invitations we mailed to get returned if they weren’t deliverable or ppl had moved without letting us know. If you shorten your timeline, I’d highly recommend sending out electronic versions also so guests have the information even if invites get lost in the mail temporarily Because your wedding would pass before some invites even got returned.
Post # 3
i have mostly local (semi-local… couple hr drive?) and we sent StDs.. our wedding is Oct 25.
I plan to mail mine out July 14, with a respond by Sept 25 (giving me exactly one month from the wedding date to follow up, which I found was very common). Hope this helps!
Post # 4
I got married October 12 last year. If my memory serves me, we sent our invites out late July (maybe even first week of August?) with a RSVP date of mid september. Most of our guests were local, but we did have a decent amount of out of town invitees. most of our RSVPs were still in on time.
Post # 5
WestToBlan: I had mostly local people too. My wedding is May 3rd. I sent them out the first week of February, with a due date of April 4th. It felt like a lot of time, but I am glad I did it that way. We are doing plated meals, so I needed those selections, on top of a yes or no. My venue wanted the final head count by April 19th, and the meals per table by April 25th. Of course not everyone got back to me in a timely matter, so post due date, we took the week to track down those not yet turned in, receiving the last one on April 11th.
I needed time to organize from there, and get all counts in, and make my seating arrangement as well.
I think everyone should account for wiggle room when doing RSVP’s, and I think your timeline sounds good to me!
Post # 6
WestToBlan: I asked my coordinator this last weekend. She said that the caterers need counts about 2 weeks ahead of hte wedding so put hte RSVP due date to be 1 month before the wedding. The two weeks in between will let you catch up with the tardy folks without putting a lot of pressure on you.
My wedding is mid-September. I will mail invites out July 1st with RSVP due date of August 19th.
Post # 7
WestToBlan: Most of my guests are out of town and the hotel block gets released 2 months before so we are sending invites with hotel info 3 months ahead. Traditionally, invites are sent out 6-8 weeks before. However, the other thing is that some venues require a head count a month ahead (like ours) so our rsvp date is 6 weeks before. Sending later tends to be better if you want a better response from guests, but some circumstances call for sending them earlier.
Post # 8
Thank you everyone! It sounds like I’m pretty well on track with what others are doing, but I think I’ll change the RSVP to sept. 10, so it is a full month before the wedding.
Post # 9
We did a 6 weeks before RSVP, too. That gives us 2 weeks to contact the stragglers. Also, the room blocks start to expire 6 weeks before, and despite having them on the wedding website since last October, I know some people won’t look at them, until they RSVP.
Post # 10
our wedding is 10/12/14, and our plan is to mail ours at the very end of july, and have an RSVP for september. 80% of our guests are from out of town.