Invitation to a DW with only two months notice

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

maybe plans change. a vacation/trip can certainly be planned in less than 2 months. some people are even last minute travelers and get good deals on flights and hotels.

i am assuming, she has blocked rooms at a hotel.

all you have to decide is if you want to spend the money to go or not.

but as i reread, you said you haven’t received the invitation.  i would wait until i received it to know i was formally invited.  maybe she sent you the website by accident.  maybe she is still eloping and looking for more gifts.

 

Post # 4
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1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Autumnsnow:  It’s not normal! Don’t feel any pressure. She barely gave you any notice. If you have the money and can get the time, then go, but if not, then she’s really put you between a rock and a hard place. If that’s the case, I would just let her know that you didn’t have time to make arrangements. How far away is the DW?

Post # 5
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333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would take that as a sign that she wants you to know you’re welcome, but that she doesn’t expect you to be there and won’t be upset. Any destination bride knows that the people you REALLY want/need at your wedding will require advanced notice. Possibly she just wants a really intimate ceremony, but didn’t want anyone feeling left out. 

Post # 6
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926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That is incredibly late for a DW.  Maybe there was a list B and that was round 2 of invites?  She can’t possibly expect people to be able to put together travel plans in 2 months, let alone a passport if needed.  If you can make it, I’m sure she’d appreciate it but don’t feel obligated to rush around trying to get plane tickets, time off word, etc. on her behalf. 

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