Post # 1
I am wondering if I should send an invitation to someone at work, who has already told me he can’t come, he has plane tickets to go overseas. He already sent me a gift (which was very nice and completely unexpected) with a note that he wishes he could be there. And, I have already sent a thank you card back thanking him for the gift and expressing my regret that he won’t be there.
Should I still send him an invitation–is it overkill?
If I send him one, do I include the RSVP card and map enclosure or leave them out, but include a note again saying that I am sorry he won’t be there but I thought he might like an invitation?
I know traditionally I should still send him one…but he and his wife are both European, so I don’t know if they would know it is customary, or think it is strange that I sent it to them.
Post # 3
I have friends who tell me they can’t make it to the wedding after receiving the Save the Date. I still sent the invitation, just because it’s still always nice to receive it – and see it.
I was invited to a weddng once, but never got an invitation (I gave a verbal RSVP), and when the date neared, I couldn’t make and notified them, and they never gave me an invitation. I actually really wanted to still receive one eventhough I knew I couldn’t make it. Kinda makes me wonder if I was *really* invited or not, you know?
Not sure about the European thing, but if they get confused, I’m sure they’ll ask and it’ll sort itself out. It’s better than not sending and then inadvertently hurting someone.
Post # 4
I think that since he’s already told you he can’t come, you don’t need to send him one. If you want, you can (though I would DEFINITELY include a note explaining that you know he might come, but you thought he might like an invite anyways)…but the only people I would do that with would be those who would want to save the invite (mothers, grandmothers, etc.).
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club
I like the idea of still sending him an invitation but including a note with it! Especially since there was a present involved, I just would think it would be nice to send an invite regardless!
Post # 6
I would still send an invite, especially since they gave you a gift.
Post # 7
Yeah, I agree that an invite would still be super nice of you.
Post # 8
I had 3 people who definitely could not come but I sent the invitation anyway. While there were a few people who ended up getting a wedding invitation that did not originally get a save-the-date, there was no one that got a save-the-date that did not get an invitation.
Post # 9
I think, although it’s not necessary, it might be a nice gesture to send him an invitation. Like other people suggested, you could just include a note acknowledging that you know he won’t be able to make it, but that you wanted to include them.
Post # 10
i would send the invite (in full) and attach a note saying that you know he can’t make it, but you wanted to let him enjoy the invitation that you lovingly created!
Post # 11
Send the invitation with an attached note expressing your regrets again that he couldn’t make it. It’s always nice to see wedding invitations and it will make them feel truly invited and appreciated.
Post # 12
I’d send it and include a note saying you’re sorry her can’t make it! It’s always nice to feel included!