invitation-whos paying.

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Sponsored by sounds like a sporting event. You can thank your parents profusely in private.

Your invitation can have your parenta name on it as if mr and mrs invite you to the marriage of their daughter to fiance…but this sounds like they are paying for the whole thing. 

Post # 3
1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

“Sponsored by” sounds incredibly strange for a wedding. 

No one needs to know who paid for it. And on top of that people will talk because you neglected to add your in laws’ names and I think they’ll be upset if they find out.

I mean, unless you want to make them look bad or something. 

Post # 4
42117 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

PenguininaJumper:  ” The people who send out the invitation — that means the people who are “requesting the honor of your presence” — are generally viewed as the wedding hosts. Usually, the couple’s parents are the hosts, although sometimes the couple themselves or another relative fills the role. However, a couple might be paying for the entire wedding themselves but still choose to have their invitation issued by their parents as a way of honoring them. Since parents often do pay for the wedding, especially if the couple is under 30, the people whose names are on the invitations are usually the ones who paid for it. But this should not be assumed.”

Weddings are not sponsored. They are hosted.

You could  issue the invitation in your parents’ names but it would also be very gracious to include his parents. They are going to be your in-laws for a long time.

This wording indocates that your parents are hosting. Is that not enough?

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

request the pleasure of your company

at the marriage of their daughter

Jane Marie


Mr. Jeffrey James Johnson

son of Mr. and Mrs. Jack Johnson

Post # 6
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - lindsay lakes, cypress TX

I wouldn’t use the words “sponsered by” it just sounds so much like an ad on a sporting event flyer. You can do the traditional and say “Parents request the honor of your presence at the mariagge of thier daughter to..” Orrrr You could be light hearted and say something like: “Lovingly planned by Parents names & Couples Names”  on the back. But still I think that’s a little rubbing in FI family faces that they didn’t help. I would just do a thank you card at the reception for family and friends and add something about “thank you to (your parents names) for helping make this day possible….” and something to his family like “thanks to (his parents for loving and supporting us emotionally). <br />Something liek this but make it personal… I want to leave thank you notes on the tables (dinner, for the ceremony guests) similar to this. Obviously different colors for fall.


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