Post # 1
Fiance and I are making our invitations oursleves and need a little help with the wording. My parents are paying for about 90% of the wedding and are fairly traditional. They wanted the invitation to go along the lines of-
“Mr and Mrs X would like the honour of your prescence of the marriage of their daughter to X”.
The thing is though, FI does not know his Father and his Mother will not be on the invitation for a few reasons (doesnt support the wedding, doesnt want to contribute, doesnt even know if she is going to come or not), so he will not have any family members listed with his name. I cannot have this entire Paragraph about my family at the top followd by simply my Fiance’s name. It makes it look like he is a guest at my family’s party! I do want to give my parents credit though for hosting, paying for, and being entirely supportive of us throughout the process. I need some ideas on other ways to word the invitation or a phrase to acknowledge them somewhere in there. Any advice is greatly appreciated and/or pics of your invitations. Thanks!
Post # 3
My dad is paying for most of our wedding while we havepaid for a decent chunk too. My mom hasnt because she doesnt have the funds and shes kind of hurt by it. His parents arent paying because we refuse to let them they gave us a large gift for housewarming and paid our downpayment on the house as a gift. This is how we worded it. I asked dad and he was ok with it under the circumstances that and he could care less about ettiquette. Hope it helps a little?
He asked, and she said yes…
or was it the other way around?
However it happened
are getting married
and they ask you to join them
on Saturday, the thirteenth of October
at half past three in the afternoon
Sugar Grove Carriage House
Post # 4
Our joy will be more complete if you can share in the marriage of our daughter Susette Ann to Jordan Jake Alletts on Saturday, June twenty-first two thousand eighteen at three o’clock in the afternoon 12997 Riverdale Way Little Falls, Virginia (just replace names/info with your info/names)
Mr. and Mrs. Clooney request the honor of your presence at the Nuptial Mass at which their daughter Melanie Clooney and Mr. John Goodman will be united in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony on the tenth of May two thousand eighteen at five o’clock in the evening St. Joseph’s Cathedral 109 87th Avenue Queens, New York
As we shall become one to share all the days of our lives… Mr. and Mrs. Feeney request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Patricia Feeney to Lucas Brooks on the sixth of December two thousand eighteen at three o’clock in the afternoon Biltmore Resort 19 Biltmore Road Bellaire, Louisiana
In this season of joy, we celebrate God’s greatest gift Mr. and Mrs. Payne request the honor of your presence at the holiday ceremony uniting their daughter Meredith Payne and Conner Williams on December twentieth two thousand eighteen at four o’clock in the afternoon St. Marks Cathedral 79 St. James Avenue Palm Village, Washington
In the spirit of peace and joy this holiday season Beth and George Thomas request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Michelle to Tom Sullivan on Friday, the tenth of January two thousand eighteen at six o’clock in the evening The Siesta Resort 455 Indiana Drive Sebring, Illinois
lots more at the above website
Post # 5
@Futuremrsmoleton: I disagree with you on this. Traditionally It would read asmine does.
Mr. and Mrs. John X. LXXX
request your presence
at the wedding of their daughter
Latortuga turtle shell
Duck feather Bill
June the 1st 2013
blah blah blah
Traditionally it was whomever paid, My Fi’s parents are not on there they know they don’t care. It it not a big deal I think ou might be a little stressed on this and I hope this eases your worry
Post # 6
@Futuremrsmoleton: The wording your parents favour is actually the traditional way that invitations were worded. If your parents are paying for 90% of the wedding, I don’t think that should be a problem. If you put the groom’s parents names on them and they don’t even attend, that’s going to look a little strange, no? Or am I misinterpreting something?
Post # 7
My fiance’s family is unsupportive too and we don’t know if MIL will be there either but we made sure to make the invite neutral just for this purpose:
“It is with joy that we, Sally Bride and Joe Groom invite you to share our happiness as we vow our lives to one another at 3pm on November 3rd, 2012 at Resort & Spa, yada yada yada….”
Instead of putting family on the invite we thanked family in our wedding programs.
Or, you could say ‘together with their families, Sally Bride and Joe Groom invite you…”
Honestly the invite isn’t about thanking your family. It’s about presenting the event to your guests. You will have plenty of opportunity to thank them later. Just my opinion.
Post # 8
Thanks for the quick responses! My Fiance’s family has never been big on weddings. He has seriously never even attended one. His family is not familiar with etiquette or tradition at all and honestly this whole planning process has been a lot for him to wrap his head around. When he saw the mock up of the invitation he was upset that my Family names, etc had so much space on the top of the invitation. He was not trying to be rude or mean, but I think it was just another little “kick” at the fact that his family, for lack of a better word, sucks, and are not involved or interested in his wedding. I know the above suggestions are traditional but I am looking for a way to thank or acknowledge my parents w/o having the traditional info. I would prefer if it was just our names at the top.
Maybe “Hosted By Mr. and Mrs. X” or “Given by Mr. and Mrs X”
Do either of those seem okay?
Post # 9
You could mention both parents as (daughter of Mr and Mrs Bride) and son of Mr and Mrs Groom