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That does seem rude. How long have you and your FI been together? Is it possible that the bride and groom don't even know that your FI is dating you, much less in a committed relationship?? That's the only thing I can think of.
I don't really know what you can say if they put "and guest" on the place card, since you're written your name on the RSVP. Hopefully this doesn't happen! If it does, I'd probably be offended too, but what can you really say at that point? It's not like they are going to go make a new place card for you right then and there. It sounds like you're not friends with these people and that they are your FI's friends. I wouldn't worry about it too much.
I was invited to a wedding about a year ago, and my husband and I were already engaged. It had his name and a guest. I had met them before, but I think they were playing it safe. It was likely not intentional or assuming you weren't together. Since I was doing the invitations, there were some generalities involved in our invitations since my husband couldn't remember names.
Don't worry about it now, and Adira is right - now that you've RSVPd, they will likely have your name on the place card.
We had just closed on our house when the invite came in, we were engaged within two months of closing on our house and the invitation came to our house, the groom definitely met me before but the bride knew about me as well just never met.
The same thing happened to me and totally pissed me off as well!
My neighbor is getting married and his fiancee put 'and guest' for my FH. The groom could have easily called his mom and asked her and if she wasn't sure she could have asked my mom. I would have fine with even his first name. To make matters worse they put my name on the invite with my parents! I mean I do still live at home (in the process of moving), but I'm 24!!! Should have had my own invite. Etiquette people!
When it came time to send out my STD's I thought about just putting my neighbors name and guest for his fiancee but ultimately decided that would be wrong.
I can understand why you would be pissed off, but I think a lot of people do that if a couple isn't married. Because if you two broke up then he is really only inviting his friend and whoever he choses to bring. I have seen this done alot if the bride and groom are not friends with both people.
I have to admit, I just addressed my STDs and found it very hard not to put "and guest" on theirs as well. But I did the right thing and put Mr. and Mrs. The wedding is this next weekend so I'm going to wait to put it in the mail.
@LY1923: Cute! I'm sure she will be thriled to see her married name on the STD! I think it will be fun for my neighbors fiancee to see her maiden on the STD and married on the actual invite (least to me it would be).
I can understand why it would be annoying to get that, but I am addressing all of my invites with 'and guest' rather than names unless people are married. You just never know. However since you put your name on the RSVP I would defintely put your name on your placecard. I don't want any 'and guests' on our placecards.
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My fiance and I were invited to a wedding that is next weekend and the invitation was addressed to him and guest. That beyond pissed me off, the bride or groom could ask what my name is? I have met the groom numerous times he also could have asked my fiance, some friends or worst could have checked facebook for my name. When I filled out the RSVP I was sure to put my name, if I am still addressed as "and guest" on the place card, is there anything I can say? I understand it is their day but it's rude imo.