Post # 1
Hi, was hoping for some advice on invitation wording. Our wedding finances pretty much break down like this – we’re contributing 2.5X, my parents are contributing 5X, and fiance’s parents are contributing X. Fiance’s parents contribution will likely be used to fund the rehearsal dinner and/or we’ll just keep it as a wedding gift–I don’t think we’ll use it to fund the actual wedding itself. My question is: would it be more acceptable to word our invitation as “together with their parents, Ms. Salsals and Mr. Salsals invite you to their wedding” (or smtg along those lines), OR to word the inviation as “The parents of Ms. Salsals invite you to the wedding of their daughter to…”? I kind of prefer the first one, because it sounds less old-fashioned and more focused on both of us instead of just me/ my parents. But, I also want to be fair to my parents since they are ultimately paying for the bulk of this wedding. (I don’t know that they actually care, at all, but I just kind of wanted to get some ideas as to what the “right” way to do this, etiquette-wise, is, before I talk to them about it). Thanks!
Post # 3
I prefer the first one, but you may want to ask your parents – some parents are very fussy about this issue. We did Together with their parentsand I really liked it. I dont really think it should be about who paid for what, but some parents prefer it the old fashioned way!
Post # 4
Thanks PitBullLover! Any other advices bees??
Post # 5
I like either. I also like the wording Mr. and Mrs. (parents name) invite you to the wedding of their daughter Ms. Salsals to Mr. Salsals son of Mr. and Mrs. (his parents name)… It implies the brides parents paid, but still acknowledges the groom’s parents.
Post # 6
we had a similar situation. i ultimately went with something along the lines of my parents and his parents request the honor of your presence at the wedding uniting me and FI. i talked it over with my parents and they liked the idea of including his parents on the invitation as well. i also felt like since we were contributing nearly half the wedding costs ourselves that i couldn’t just have it read like my parents were hosting it, you know?